My husband of 45 years has been involved with another woman, on and off, and on again for 15 years. After attending EMS in April, I thought he "got it ". He said he was totally committed to our marriage. We have been getting along great. Until last week I found out that they have been communicating again or maybe it never broke off in the first place. He had promised me that after EMS, he would tell me if there was any type of contact between them and I would not get mad but we would deal with it. Of course, he didn't keep his promise. He tells me that he loves me, wants our marriage and is 100% in. Yet, he keeps her hanging on. He said he felt responsible for wrecking her life and just wants to help her get back on her feet. I guess he didn't " get it" at EMS. I'm so disappointed and hurt. I don't understand his neediness to keep her in his life when he know how it hurts me. He said he doesn't love her and does not want to be with her. Then why can't he let go? What do I do?