Q&A Should the Betrayed Spouse Inform the Affair Partners Spouse of the Affair?

Affair Recovery recently posted an article titled, “Eight Reasons Not to Confront the Affair Partner”. What about the spouses of the affair partners? What's your opinion on reaching out to them in a respectful, kind manner to let them know they have been being betrayed? Almost every betrayed I've ever known wishes someone had told them the truth, rather than allowing them to waste months, years, or even decades living a lie. The spouses have a right to know, and every day the betrayed keeps the unfaithful's secret is another day a spouse lives a lie, is gas-lighted, and is at risk for STD's. This is likely a continuing risk for the unwitting betrayed, as unfaithfuls rarely quit just because a particular affair partner is out of the game. There are risks in telling, but there are also risks to not telling. The people who knew about my wife's affairs and didn't tell me, they did a horrible thing. I don't want to be anything like them, or like an affair partner who thrives in untruth and half-truth.