When D-Day occurred around midnight, with my emotional affair, my husband was in shock. We went to a counselor that very day. My husband has forgiven me, and chosen not to share with anyone the details, minus one good friend. He almost became a different person afterwards and because he felt like he lost me, wanted to be with me constantly. It was everything I could ever want but felt almost too late. Because I am still struggling with missing my AP, he now wonders would it have been better to kick me out and tell people? Would that have made me want him more? He wonders if forgiveness and unconditional love was the right choice. It's been 4 1/2 months. Should we separate for a while? We are trying and in week 6 of EMSO.