This will be my 2nd time going through affair recovery, but with a different husband. I have recently discovered that my husband of only two years has the identical behavior as my ex-husband did, only worse. How on earth did I end up with two completely different men with the same identical problem and both times instead of just leaving and divorcing them, I end up trying to work with them to save the marriage? Please tell me something that can will help me to know I'm not wasting my time coming to the weekend.