My husband previously was looking at porn several times a day, sexting with random women on dating sites, and hooking up with prostitutes. Having drawn boundaries for my physical and emotional health, I will not stay in the relationship if he has sexual conduct with prostitutes again. Likewise, if he begins to sext with other women I won't stay in the marriage. I can show more grace with porn. I don't want to give him the green light for looking at porn but I want to allow space for him to fall or relapse so to speak. However I'm dying to know what counts as relapse for most sex addicts? Is it acting out with prostitutes or sexting or porn or all?