Could you please clarify some of the tenets that you repeat in the EMSO course:

• "I'm responsible for me and I'm choosing to be safe for us."

Our relationship has not been the same since my wife's affair, but we don't yell or name call, nor throw things or threaten violence. Are there other ways you think this statement would still be relevant for us to apply as we try for recovery?

• "If I can't accept where I'm at, I'll never get where I want to go," and "If I don't change directions, I'll wind up where I'm headed."

I think I understand what these mean, but they sound like the same thing, so I wonder if I am missing something.

Thanks.