Dear Rick, my wife was unfaithful during my deployment while we had promise rings, silly, but I came home we got married. 4 years in she had an affair with our friends who are swingers and at 5 years she disclosed. We both were ambivalent and I was very angry(aggressive even) with my words and the show of force type anger. She now wants a divorce and we are currently separated. She won't say I love you and does very little of the EMSO homework. I found Christ have repented and wish to reconcile although she does not. What should my next step be? We still talk as we have three children and legal matters regarding equity and child support to discuss.