When does the betrayed spouse know she's tried everything she can to salvage the marriage and it's time to move on? My unfaithful husband will not sever conversations with his AP. He has a child with her. I have set up an email that goes directly through me if the AP needs to contact him about the child. He will not cancel his email account she uses to send info and pictures about the child. I feel we should be a team especially in front of the AP but he continues to have contact with her and does not tell me when they email each other. I feel the emotional affair is still going. He even says he has feelings for her. He continues to keep me in the dark and does not let me see his phone. There is no transparency. The stress is really getting to me. He has a chance to make things right with me and our own children. I have prayed for grace if he wants contact with his child, but I will not tolerate secretive contact/emails etc. with the AP. He says I am being too difficult and unrealistic? Am I? When do I say I've done all I can?