My husband will not stop constant replaying of the sequence of events of my affair. He is stuck in a continuous state of verbal abuse every time he drinks. He tells me I need to change and keeps holding divorce over my head. We both cheated. He cheated several times and continued a year long affair. My affair lasted less than 3 months. I have ceased contact with friends, the affair partner, and I am quitting my job (which he hates). He still thinks I am not doing enough. What will be enough?