Q&A Why Does My Mate Say He Can't Remember Details of the Affair?

Everytime I try to have a conversation with my husband about the affair he says, “I can’t remember!”. No matter how trivial the question. It is backed by, “it was two years ago and it’s not relevant to where we are today.” These comments infuriate me. I feel like it’s a slap in the face and shows a complete lack of respect. Like my time to go down that road has expired and anymore going down that road is not “healthy” “he’s not that guy anymore” ....(which are more comments I hear). So now I should take my seat like a child and hush up because I have chosen to stay. That’s what It feels like to me. I’d say I’m respectful to most other aspects of recovery and work in our marriage he is doing what I feel I want/need. This one area makes me so upset and makes me question why he does this. Is talking about the infidelities really a problem?