I am the betrayed spouse... married 33 years. I discovered my husbands affair with his co-worker 5 years ago. We both wanted to reconcile. Together we went to a Christian marriage counselor and for 9 months he denied a sexual affair... only that it was an emotional affair. Then we discovered Affair Recovery and signed up for EMS Online, which really was a positive experience for our healing. Now... 3 years after EMS Online I am currently participating in Harboring Hope. I love my husband and want our marriage.. but I don’t have respect for him. Any suggestions? I’m weary of pretending all is fine. He wants me to get over it.