I have watched your 2 videos posted last week about husbands meaning it when they say they loved the AP and if they really loved the AP. In both videos, you mention that once they are removed from the situation husbands are able to see the relationship for what it was. That it really wasn't love. We are a year from when the affair started, 10 months from D-Day and we went to EMS Weekend. My husband still "loves" the AP. He never has said, "I don't love her, I love you or that was foolish and stupid..I want to be with you". I don't feel pursued or loved by him. He says he is sorry that he hurt me and that he wants to reconcile. Do I just have to accept that my husband loves someone else and go on? And that's that. Just know that there's some other woman around town that he "loves"? Isn't 10 months long enough to get your emotions in check?