Q&A Is EMS Online the Right Fit for Us?
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Question
Rick, with the upcoming launch of the EMS Online 2nd Edition, I have a few questions about the course. It's been 14 months since D-Day of my husband's affair, and during that time we have worked with:
- A marriage therapist who got us through the very early trauma stage
- A marriage coach who counseled us through a number of phone calls as well as a 3 day intensive week-end (just the 3 of us)
- My current participation in Harboring Hope
No one outside of the two of us and these professionals know about our circumstances. I have now shared my story with my HH group but that occurred over a year after D-Day. My husband has only spoken to the coach and therapist (as well as countless conversations with me!!!!).
My questions are these:
- Are we too far along in the process for this course to provide maximum benefit to us?
- Although both of us have a belief in God, we have not nurtured a relationship with Him and wonder if the course will still have strong application for us.
- One of our biggest hurdles is communicating about the affair or other uncomfortable topics. Will this course assist us with safe and deeper communication?
- Is there any focus on framing this event so we can rewrite our history and both come to understand what it means?
- Does the course provide practical tools and tips for moving forward? It's nice to hear success stories from others but a tool kit would be very helpful.
- How do you match group participants? Do you look for commonalities or is it first come first served?
- What do you believe will be the biggest benefit that this course can offer?
Rick, I know the team at AR has a strong belief in the benefit of these courses but I want to make sure this particular course is the right fit for us. It is a big investment of time and we want to ensure this is the right place to put our efforts.
Looking forward to hearing your response.

