My husband and I have been separated for almost a year and a half. He is involved in the lives of our two teenage sons and they seem to have no hard feelings toward him for leaving. However, he has been in an adulterous relationship the entire time and they do not know that. It has been very difficult for me and I am praying and believing that God will restore and heal our marriage in His perfect timing. Recently my husband told me and our sons that we are going to divorce. He told me it has nothing to do with the other woman. Ha. Ha. My question is, do you think it is wise for me to tell our boys that my husband has this other life? I just know for myself, I want them to know who and what they are basing their feelings on. However, I also want to protect them from hurting more. I know all things will be revealed but they are being lied to and deceived and I am not sure how to handle this. If you do not think I should tell them, how should I handle my grief around them? If you think I should tell them, what do you think I should say? Thank you for your opinion and feedback

Rick, I'm dealing with my wife's infidelity. We've attended a recent EMS retreat. My wife is committed to giving me the 90 days of no contact from the AP but continues to insist that she misses talking with him and sees him as a friend. I struggle will wondering what the future holds. I know each person lets go at their own pace. My wife says she's been forced to let go of friends her entire life which causes her to hold on to this relationship. Is it true that a relationship can heal if the she chooses to not let go of her relationship with the AP? How will this impact our ability to reconcile our marriage? What can I offer her when she makes these comments to me? I welcome your feedback.

It will be 2 years in October since I went through Harboring Hope. My former husband lived with his affair partner for a year then married her. He has left our children and grandchildren and has no relationship with them also. My question is how does a man deliberately leaves a 31 year marriage, 2 grown daughters, 2 sons-in-law, 4 grandchildren, mother-in-law and extended family. He left his practice after 30 years to start all over in medicine in another location. Has there been anyone who has lived this who has wisdom? The marriage was very difficult with counseling over a long course of time. He would abandon and reject daily but then act as if he was happy and loved me. Then the cycle would begin again. After 25 years or so, I finally gave up and asked for a in-house-separation which he accused me of being like divorce. I began to rage and beg and plead for him to relate, give, clean up his mess in life, you name it I begged for connection. You can imagine what he accused me of to get the divorce. I stood by until he married her asking God to restore the marriage. So my question is can you help me understand such behavior? "I want to get on with my life..." were the last words I heard him say to me..." my heart still quenches when I remind myself of such. He told our girls "he had a right to be happy..."