Rick, I read week 2 on the 911 EMS online series. I was particularly taken by how well you nailed my relationship with my affair partner. I feel like my type 2 affair as you called it is quite common. Anyway, I am intriqued by the use of the term "limerance" and I am beginning to wonder if my afffair partner has a" love addiction" problem. I can't say that I understand either term fully but I wonder if you could elaborate on this affair type. I have been able to unilaterally cease all contact but I am concerned about my ability to fend off attempted contact from her

Is there ever an appropriate time or situation to contact the affair partner and say "back off"? Revelation of the affair was one year ago. Since then my husband has had multiple relapses. Finally, as of two months ago he made the call that ended it for good. I am trying to believe him, but have my suspicions he is still occasionally in contact with her. Publicly she just seems very "ok" and not the scorned, sad lover she is supposed to be. She tweets to him and most recently sent a gift to my husband for my one year old's birthday. MY child. My husband brought it home, lied and said it was from his client. But I had a gut feeling and with a little sleuthing, I discovered the truth (though he claims he didn't see her and that the gift exchange occurred through a mutual acquaintance). What would be the harm in calling and telling her to back off? I'm not looking to chew her out. But I am so frustrated. I feel like I am not sticking up for myself and my family. She is a blatant threat to my family - shouldn't I defend us?