Affair Recovery

"Feels like this week is a turning point from victim to victor!"

"I think our group leader was so good at giving each of us space and moving us along. She is incredibly empathetic and present in these sessions."

"When I first began the course, I was broken, lost, and unsure if healing was even possible. My husband’s infidelity had shattered my world, and I didn’t know if I would ever be able to move forward. Harboring Hope became a lifeline for me during that time. I wasn’t just learning how to navigate the pain, I was surrounded by a community of others who truly understood what I was going through. It was in that space that I felt less alone and more empowered to start the journey of recovery."

"I felt stressed and anxious going into the first group meeting. Our Group Leader was awesome. In the initial minutes of the meeting, he had me laughing and relaxed. I look forward to this week's assignment and the next group meeting. I am so glad to be taking this course."

"It's so good to be in this small group and to see that other women are going through the same things that I'm going through. I wish that I would have done this 6 years ago."

"Beyond EMS Aftercare: Eye opening lesson. I need to learn how to grieve."

"Hearing the vulnerability of the leaders and group really set the tone, especially for not feeling alone. Grateful for the experience of the group leader and the hope in his story."

"The work that we did to prepare for this week was very meaningful. I believe this is what I was always wanting to hear from my spouse, as I am the betrayed spouse. I have deeply wanted him to know my full sense of losses."

"Our Group Leader has such a personal way of including in her testimony and her prayer every member of our group. She also is able to verbalize our emotions and feelings when often we have a tough time formulating the words. She’s wonderfully supportive and kind."

"The curriculum continues to be stellar. I did Harboring Hope course so wasn't sure if there would be new breakthroughs - but Week 3 was awesome and eye opening and week 4 was very helpful too. Like a drink of cool water on a 120 degree day."

"It is all sooooo good, so soothing, so understanding, so encouraging. "

"I came into the weekend unsteady and unsure of what to expect. I started Friday morning guarded and had thick walls put up. By the end of day 1 I was engaged in the process and saw the hope that I could be accepted and forgiven. I am leaving EMS confident that we will survive this and knowing that our story is not over."

"I was nervous to come and share our story with strangers, especially as a wayward woman. But I found amazing support and love and acceptance - both from my group members and the staff/therapists. I received invaluable insight that I will take into every relationship, but especially our marriage. THANK YOU."

"I was afraid nobody else would have the pornography and sex addiction issues. Boy, was I wrong. Our small group was a gift from God, and I believe we’ll be in each other’s lives forever. I’m so thankful for this weekend!"

"We were one year post-recovery work and this weekend was still so incredibly necessary for our healing. I am so grateful for being here. This weekend saved my marriage, but more importantly saved me."

"I was expecting intense sessions and maybe a few tears, but it brought out so much more. I gained a much better understanding and sympathy for my husband's pain and trauma that led him to stray. My heart broke during the "Heart of Man" video and focused my anger on the sin itself rather than my husband. It made me see him more through God's eyes rather than with contempt or bitterness. "

"Harboring Hope has been a God-send! It was exactly what I needed to participate in at the most devastating period of my life. I am so grateful for the materials, our group leader, and the women in my group who made me feel safe sharing and gave me hope that I could recover. I was devastated when I learned of my husband's affair. We had been married 32 years, have three kids and four grandchildren and were happily married, so I had thought. I had no idea this man that I love, and with whom I built a life could do this. It was the last thing in the world I thought could happen to me, to us. Thankfully, I found Affair Recovery on-line. "

"Our Group Leader can truly relate to me. He never let's me off the hook, which is very important so I make sure I am making this about my wife."

"Beyond EMS Aftercare: Our Group Leader has had to field some curve balls and I really appreciate his grace under pressure. He was especially compassionate this week with group member's struggles."

"Beyond EMS Aftercare: Excellent meeting as always. I am so grateful for this program and the tools provided and the support my husband and I receive."

"I found the curriculum very well built up and tackled all the issues involved and then some. I definitely felt that no one was out to shame or blame either side. I truly wanted my unfaithful husband to receive some healing, and he did! It has opened up discussions for us that we have not been able to have. We definitely have better perspective on ourselves, our thinking and habit patterns, our communication, our upbringings and issues there, slowly working through the affair issues as well. I do not know what will happen to our marriage... I am standing for it, but my husband is still unsure. But I believe EMS helped us to turn in the right direction, both for our own individual healings, and hopefully with that, it will lead us also in the right direction for the future of our marriage."

"To be honest, I was expecting a lot of preaching and prayer at EMS. I was surprised about how little there was and how many practical tools, tips, and techniques instead. I experienced a sense of community that I knew I needed, but didn’t think I would ever find. While very powerful, deep, and frightening, I also found the days, programs, and discussions to be immensely useful and cathartic. I feel more hopeful about the future of my relationship than I did before we came to EMS."

"Curriculum continues to bring surprising breakthrough for us. Our Group Leaders are compassionate and insightful, and I appreciate that they open up about their own story."

"This course has been one of the best things I have ever done. Well done to the writers Lesley and John."

"This week was insightful for me as it uncovered some historical issues that haunt me every day, except I failed to acknowledge it before this week."

"Things were great this morning. Getting to talk and share is a huge help to what we are doing together. It brings a sense of community and togetherness to let us know we aren't alone in our fight and struggles."

"Beyond EMS Aftercare: Incredibly grateful for our group leader continuing to foster safety and trust in our circle. We continue to build within our own relationships but having this small community is such a blessing to be able to walk on our path with other amazing people. I also appreciate that she doesn't just listen and validate us in group, she also provides insights into couples dynamics. She brings her own truth and this adds another layer of value, normalizing the ups and downs of relationships while also providing hope that recovery is possible. This week's curriculum was difficult but a much needed exercise that has shown me how much progress my partner has made with the help of EMS. We will both revisit this lesson again in the future."

"I wasn't sure what to expect! I went into this with a little bit of hope but not much at all. It was a last-ditch Hail Mary. Afterwards all I can say is WOW!!! Amazing tools/information and so much healing. We've applied the tools multiple times now already and it's already transforming our marriage in such a short amount of time. Also very thankful for the online availability. This wouldn't have been possible without that! This gave our marriage a real chance and I have so much hope that we can overcome this! Also the staff, I don't even have words on how relatable, sweet and helpful they were! I was sad it was ending just because of that. I've felt for 16 months since D-Day that I have been on an island alone. Being involved with people who have gone through this helped me feel included and not alone! That all by itself without anything else was so helpful and healing. Thank you for this program! It may have saved our marriage. "

"I went into the weekend expecting it to be helpful but was a bit skeptical of the recovery progress it seemingly appeared to promise. I left feeling so much more empathy towards my husband which I feel will not only allow myself to heal quicker but it could have possibly saved my marriage. I am hopeful that my husband and I now have the tools needed to move forward through this mess successfully and towards a much more meaningful relationship."

"I had no idea what to expect, but I knew we needed it and we are both grateful for this offering to better ourselves. The key is clearly working with those that are and or have experienced the same things...especially for my wife."

"I'm just so thankful I found Affair Recovery. I've looked forward to each week and am ready to learn, engage, and listen."

"It has been an outstanding experience and start to my journey of healing."

"Knowing my anger is cover for sadness is helping me think through more things I've kept buried. This was a hard chapter, but helpful in recovery."

"Our leader's ability to love and understand everyone right where they are is such a gift allowing the process to take place, giving way for the Spirit to bring breakthrough. So grateful. "

"Our Group Leader is great, more than I expected. He genuinely cares, easy to talk to, and has a lot personal experiences to share which helps with my healing."

"It's nice to know I am not crazy and that someone who has been through this too can relate and provide their side as well."

"Beyond EMS Aftercare: Our Group Leaders are very compassionate and Gods love shines through them."

"Insights in the course are spot-on and extremely relevant."

"Our Group Leader is the BEST! She seriously fostered such a great environment for our group. She was always open and vulnerable and encouraging and challenging with us. She also always reminded us of our worth and advocated for our self care. She's an amazing woman of God and this group was great because of her."

"So far, I am so glad to know there are other women like me that understand my betrayal and grief."

"I am thankful for our Group Leader. You can feel the support, genuineness, and compassion for all of us. I also appreciate the prayer at the end of group. I feel God is talking to me through them."

"I was very apprehensive - my husband was very resistant. We were able to open up, understand and have empathy for each other. I am in a place of peace and feeling optimistic."

"I was skeptical. I was expecting religious focus. I'm religious, but I sometimes find it can be used as a crutch and forced upon you. Spirituality is different for everyone. I experienced ways to let my wife and others like me see what I'm really thinking. I left KNOWING I have a lot of work ahead of me, and things will never be the same. But I have hope and optimism that something new can be obtained, something real, not just something I talk about wanting."

"Great circling back to trust and what that means for us all moving forward! So grateful for this course and for Affair Recovery, & our amazing leader. Time to keep going and moving forward now with a plan for healing and hope."

"I'm so glad I took the chance and invested the money in doing Harboring Hope. It all seemed very overwhelming at first- I'm not usually a group person and I'm not even a practicing Christian, but once I got the materials and we started the sessions I saw immediately it was the best decision I could have made. You can't do it alone and having our wonderful group leader, the curriculum, and the other group members made it possible to endure the really hard work of healing. No one else really understood what I was going through and I felt so much better after every call. It's so easy to cope in destructive ways and to transmit your hurt to others and so the curriculum was extremely helpful in giving me positive nourishing advice that helped me stay true to who I know I am- a kind hearted person who chooses healing and hope and who does the hard stuff to get through the hard times. "

"The group leader has done a terrific job. It just makes me want to be a better husband and person."

"We had already managed getting on a pretty good path prior to EMS Weekend. I think we were a bit concerned that this weekend may in some way derail the progress we had made. We experienced a lot of love and understanding over EMS Weekend. I could see that the staff took care to approach each couple on a case by case basis. This individual care helped to address our specific issues and led to a very productive weekend for us. I feel like we are leaving this weekend with tools to continue our progress towards a better marriage and a community to help us continue this into the future."

"I was extremely scared that my husband would be triggered all weekend. I was scared that other couples would hate me. I was so scared to speak my story or even say the word “cheat” in a group. I found myself extremely safe and wanted to share my (our) story with others. I found that their stories helped me, and mine helped them."

"I enjoyed the weekend. I didn’t think my husband would cooperate at all, but to my amazement, he worked hard. The kindness and compassion from the staff was excellent. They made us feel welcomed and loved. I feel better about my marriage than I have in 48 years of marriage. I also liked that all of the staff were in our shoes at one time, so they really understand."

"The entire weekend was purposefully designed and provided opportunities to share our story, hear others stories, and move through exercises designed to stretch and grow me as a man, as a husband, and as a Christian. This weekend was the miracle I was hoping for to help put us on the path to healing and forgiveness."

"Going to EMS Weekend as a “committed relationship” rather than a married couple sent a lot of anxiety through me before, and during. I can honestly say we were met with the same struggles, given the same care, and treated with compassion just the same. I saw tremendous breakthroughs with my mate and also myself. This retreat is about individual healing rather than couple healing."

"The curriculum is well thought through. It speaks of a deep understanding of both the betrayed and the wayward spouse and the complicated emotions involved in the whole process of recovery."

"This group, the leader, and the material are helping change my life."

"Thank you for making a way to relate to the God-esteem topic in the video for someone like myself who is atheist."

"I appreciate the encouragement that our Group Leader gives throughout the meeting. I also appreciated the clarifying question they posed to one of the couples. It just gives more insight to how people are thinking."

"I appreciate the men in the group sharing and being vulnerable and it being a safe environment. Thanks to our Group Leader for him sharing his observations and his experience."

"Such a great way to be vulnerable, open, and honest. I'm so proud of our group and feel blessed to have this tool to better myself!! Thank you!!"

"Thankful for this process. I feel like a different person compared to 12 weeks ago. Xoxo"

"This assignment truly made me feel like my husband gets me. That he understands me and shows me his empathy. It was a much needed exercise that I think will help me get over the hump."

"-Thank you to our Group Leader! You were an amazing moderator, and we appreciated all of your sound insight and feedback. You were very versed on the subject matter and never once judgmental, but truly understanding. Thank you again!"

"I came into the EMS Weekend feeling that my marriage was too broken. Both me and my spouse had been unfaithful and I was beginning to lose hope in a future together. After this weekend, I have hope to be the person I want to be and find happiness and peace even in hard circumstances. EMS gave us the tools and motivation not to repair our marriage, but to allow God to make us new."

"This experience has been profound. I experienced hope, love, and faith. I am more hopeful about my marriage than I could have imagined. Thank you for HOPE!"

"I had a lot of anxiety the week leading up to the weekend and had a flooding meltdown Thursday night that brought back all the feelings of D-day. I was not in a good headspace Friday morning and fearful of what the day might bring. Our small group leader was a calming force and helped me to stabilize. I experienced a very well rounded professional group of people on the AR staff that are caring and kind and loving. For the first time in months I feel hopeful that my husband and I may in fact have a future together."

"Upon my arrival, I felt shame & anxiety. I reluctantly got dressed in the morning, and once I crossed the threshold of the main meeting room, I felt at ease, welcome, and relaxed. The curriculum was perfectly organized. I especially appreciated content that gets right to the heart of the matter. EMS Weekend shaved YEARS off of my recovery and put my marriage on the appropriate path. No fluff, no judgment. I would wholeheartedly recommend this to anyone in need looking to rebuild their marriage."

"As the unfaithful spouse, I was afraid I would be tied to a whipping post all weekend, but it was the best weekend ever. Me and my wife have found a whole new level of connection that we have never before experienced. Our group leader, small group, and large group discussions were just amazing. I feel a new hope for our future."

"I came in angry and bitter that my wife’s actions and selfishness brought me here. I did not expect to be leaving this full of hope. I met other men just like me. It made me realize my masculinity has not died, actually, it’s never been more alive. In Rick’s words, “I’m a total badass” for choosing the path of courage to stay. To transform. To be reborn. To create a new life with the woman I love and that I know loves me. I know that because our definition of love has totally changed."

"I was filled with anxiety about the weekend before attending. I did not really know what to expect. Once the weekend began, my anxiety essentially disappeared. Although difficult and intensive, the weekend was so beneficial! I would recommend it to anyone that finds themselves in this situation. After attending we have so much more hope for the future of our marriage."

"I would recommend this experience to anyone needing this type of help in their marriage. Every single staff member was very compassionate and considerate of the nature of the reason we are here. This weekend provided us with tools needed to get through our situation. The fact that all of the staff have been through infidelity was very helpful. I feel extremely hopeful for the future of our marriage."

"Wow. My husband and I came here to check off a box before our divorce. The experience here was more than that. It was filled with not only growth within our marriage, but also internal growth. We received support within the EMS Weekend but also lots of tangible tools for the weeks, months, and years to come. We have a roadmap now. Thank you for being exactly what we needed. I am excited for the future of me, my husband, and our marriage."

"I felt like EMS weekend was exactly what we needed to help us but I had no idea just exactly how much it would help us and it addressed things we had no idea we needed to think about. We are feeling so much more hopeful for our marriage, and while we still have lots of healing to do, there is hope."

"We took EMS Online 5 years ago, but we were not at ground zero--more information about PREVIOUS infidelity had recently come out, so we took the weekend course. We were remote and it was very good. Our small group was awesome and we were able to bond just as well as if we were in person. I'm disappointed that we have had to be participants again, but AR was the only place I trusted to help us--we had many of the tools already, but the intense refresher course was just what we needed."

"This hits where counseling misses. Addressing issues head on but with kindness, knowledge and care. The most important part is it will provide you with a connection to others struggling with similar issues. Some of the best money I ever spent – only wish I found this program sooner."

"I was a little apprehensive coming into this as we were in therapy and were at a decent point and were afraid to rehash everything, but we brought up things and were then able to process them in such a productive way. The process, the lectures, the food, and the staff were amazing. It was all so professionally done. The exercises had us reconnect and be vulnerable with each other. It enabled us to be emotional and speak from the heart. I leave here hopeful and positive, knowing we have the tools to move forward!"

"We came into EMS Weekend not really knowing what to expect. We were 6 months from discovery and we had done many things that had made healing more difficult. We had reached a point where we thought our marriage was not repairable. We both thought “what do we have to lose?” We came out of EMS Weekend with hope. We are both feeling committed to working through this together and healing and rebuilding our marriage. We feel that we now have many more tools to deal with our situation. We couldn’t be more grateful."

"We experienced complete acceptance and love for both of us. We are both more hopeful than ever that the next 30 years of marriage will be astonishing whereas the last had so much baggage and zero tools to learn to truly love and enjoy each other. Now we do!"

"We were both unfaithful spouses stemming back over 30 years. I was extremely hesitant to dump what I thought was a large sum of money on just another marriage conference that doesn't work. EMS Weekend got right to the core! The detailed curriculum helped both my spouse and I live what it's like in their shoes without judgement. It helped us connect with each other again even though we had separated. No I wouldn't call it dumping money, I would definitely call it an investment in the next chapter of our marriage."

"I was unsure of what my experience would be because I had never done any form of therapy. I experienced healing, hope, gained insight and grew as an individual. I am feeling closer to my spouse, hopeful for my marriage and looking forward to our future together."

"I was extremely nervous about attending EMS, but found it to be very helpful and encouraged. Before EMS I didn't have a good plan or source of support. I experienced a sense of hope for my marriage and future. I also could feel the caring spirit of every staff member. I feel a sincere appreciation for my wife and marriage. I'm also looking forward to the future as we continue developing and growing, trusting and loving each day. I'm not a fan of the journey we are on at this time, but I took a wrong turn. No, I got lost. So I'm now looking at EMS as a road map/compass. I know that there will be hazards and even road blocks along the way, but I feel as though I can reach out to them for help. Thanks to all, you guy's really are amazing and special. "

"My experience was positive and made me feel like there really is hope for the future. And even if it doesn't work out for my marriage I know now that I can rewrite my own story! Thank you EMS!"

"Before coming to EMS, I had all kinds of fears. I didn't know what I was walking into. What I found was this group of people who were just like me, who had walked my path before I did. I didn’t believe anyone really understood the large fire burning under my feet and all around me. Seeing firsthand and now knowing I’m NOT alone in this brings me so much comfort."

"We came in angry, sad, ashamed, and fearful. The weekend was incredibly intense and emotional but so very helpful. We feel hopeful and are leaving with a plan which helps me feel safe. Thank you for all the wonderful instructors and speakers. There is a feeling of grace and love that envelops the entire weekend. There was no better place for us to be."

"I experienced greater emotion in 3 days than I have in 30 years and it was such an enlightening and unburdening experience. I have hope that I will be a greater and more worthy person in the future for myself, for my spouse, and for my children."

"I came here thinking, “Why am I here? This won't help,” but now I have hope. Hope was being clouded by fear, and now those clouds are fading."

"I was dreading coming to this weekend since I am not a “therapy person.” This process was truly transforming to my heart. It gave me tools to not only learn how to cope with my husband’s actions but also how to deal with other personal issues that did not involve him. I am hopeful & prayerful for the future with my husband."

"I was desperate for some direction before EMS. EMS gave a great direction for our recovery, and a direction for individual healing. I have a determination that our marriage can heal from this and will!"

"Transformative. Life changing. Thank you for giving us the tools to work through this difficult road."

"My husband and I drove 10 hours to get to EMS Weekend. And we argued, screamed, yelled, and cried the majority of the trip. By the time we arrived, I thought “if one of us doesn’t buy a plane ticket for the trip home, then this EMS thing works miracles.” Neither of us bought a plane ticket. We both have so much hope for an incredible marriage after this weekend. And also a ton of tools + resources to help us on our journey."

"I came to EMS not knowing what to expect. I was petrified, nervous, and worried that I would be labeled and shamed. That didn’t happen. It was a hard, emotional weekend but so worth the effort. I have genuine hope for a renewed future!"

"I have seen many of the AR videos, and found them to be the only ones that acknowledge the pain and trauma that the betrayed spouse goes through. It's amazing how little any of my marriage or individual counselors addressed that. EMS made me feel like what I was going through was to be expected and normal, and then I would get through it. I am very hopeful for our marriage in the future. "

"We enrolled in EMS ~six weeks after the 1st big D-Day. The three weeks until EMS was the slowest passage of time we had ever experienced as we were living in the constant chaos of flooding, triggers, anger, fear, shame, pain and sadness. While AR Bootcamp and the Resource Library provided some help, it was nothing compared to the powerful support, safety, compassion, kindness and hope we received from the EMS Leaders through the information, practices, processes and guidance they provided. The fact that all the leaders have walked the dark road of affair recovery themselves and being a part of a small group who know what you are going through was invaluable. My husband and I agreed that we both left having experienced the beginnings of healing deep wounds and knowing each other, ourselves and our marriage (past and present) better to start working towards a loving and meaningful future no matter what it looks like."

"I was honestly desperate. It’s amazing. We had a complete turnaround from nearly leaving Friday to my husband finding hope on Saturday. Thank you AR for the HOPE!"

"Intense, fulfilling, and liberating journey. A life-changing experience, no matter what the outcome may be. I’m feeling extremely hopeful for my marriage and my future. "

"I was holding information and I wasn’t sure that I could get anything out of EMS. I hoped it would help my spouse. I can’t believe how I was able to come clean and finally find freedom. I believe this has truly started the healing process in the right way. Rick and counselors are amazing. They helped me see how I’ve hurt my spouse and what issues I’ve been carrying since childhood. So thankful for this seminar. I know we were led here by God."

"The experience has exceeded our expectations. The material and the venue – all were amazing. This is the hardest season of our life and this weekend was life-changing. "

"I signed up for the EMS Online 13 week course and started in December last year. I have been with my partner for 15 years although we had been as good as separated for the past 2-3 years. I was the unfaithful spouse for 10 years during the relationship and had come to view my partner with a negative lens as well as not feeling like I could plan with her in mind. We finally decided to try the online course after watching many YouTube videos from the team, as 15 years, 3 kids and an entire farm project were in the balance. I wish I had known about the course before any relationship, as it completely reset my wiring, someone was finally teaching me how to have a relationship. I learned about thoughts and feelings and how to tackle them, I learned how to feel empathy, forgiveness, truth in love and more. It was a spiritual journey and I now have the best relationship I have ever had and certainly the best moment in the 15 years of being together. I would recommend AR to anyone in crisis...absolutely, and really to just anyone in a relationship.... It's amazing, the structure of the 13 weeks takes you on an emotional rollercoaster and at times I felt like quitting, but thanks to my commitment contract and the knowledge that things were getting clearer, I continued and now have moved onto married life with our group as it's just such powerful work. We were in a terrible place before starting this course and now we are in a wonderful relationship together. "

"Before EMS Weekend, we struggled knowing what the next steps were. EMS Weekend provided a great roadmap."

"I felt I would be judged and labeled – that definitely wasn’t the case. My experience was so great & everyone (counselors, group sessions, main sessions, staff, etc.) was genuine & had so much empathy. As the unfaithful, I felt it would be geared to the betrayed more before I came & that was farther from the truth. We are leaving as a loving couple that have the tools to keep healing. The road ahead is not going to be easy, but we have new friends & amazing resources that will help us to beat this & have a stronger marriage than what we had before."

"It was frightening and surreal walking in on Friday morning. I am leaving Sunday with hope and tools not just that will help me in my marriage, but also in my life. I have hope for the future of my marriage now."

"I was unsure of what to expect. It felt like a hail mary pass signing up. I felt something telling me this is where we needed to be. It was like drinking from a firehose but so beneficial. I feel confident that things will work out how they are intended to with God leading our marriage. There is so much love and kindness from the staff and you can tell they enjoy the work they do."

"I had “hope of hope” before EMS. After EMS, I truly feel hope for our future and our family."

"My weekend at EMS was extremely beneficial. The food was good, the lessons were good. It was an all around great experience. I was expecting to be labeled, pointed out. Complete opposite. I feel our marriage moving on from here is going to thrive. My focus is going to be a new marriage. Thank you so much Rick and staff for your compassion and your hospitality."

"Despite attending remotely and overnight due to the time zone, it was a valuable investment."

"Before coming to EMS, I was struggling with PTSD symptoms, feeling very stuck with very little hope for things to improve. EMS gave me tools and resources to better cope with my anxiety, intrusive thoughts, and anger. I left feeling as if I had experienced a miracle and empowered to do the hard work of healing my marriage with renewed faith."

"I am astounded how well thought-out and run this weekend was. It was the perfect mix of information and personal connection. Each piece of the weekend was necessary and helpful. And being surrounded by so many who have overcome this pain was a balm to my weary soul."

"My wife and I came here 6-10 years too late. We grew strong individually and I realized that I will never be the husband I need to be without dealing with my own childhood traumas. Unfortunately, I am not confident that our marriage will survive but I have never felt so encouraged that I will heal and become a better man."

"This was an incredible experience. Truly enjoyed the material, leadership, and support staff. We leave here with a strong understanding of where we are and the road ahead. Thank you!"

"I expected an intense weekend with therapeutic sessions. I experienced what I expected plus a whole lot more. The small group benefited us by hearing and seeing couples go through similar situations. It made it easier to share when others were sharing as well. I am feeling hopeful for my marriage and feel like we have new building blocks to help us remodel - a second chance of a new marriage."

"I wanted to make changes and this class gave me a framework in a more comprehensive way than just counseling. There was no judgement. And always hope. I enjoyed the fact that it had a systematic approach. Not every lesson perfectly applicable. But most were. And I am certain every unfaithful could find value. I like that it was interwoven into my faith. I also liked that it was not just an on-line class but a community. It was good to feel like you are not the only one going through this. I learned about myself. The class reinforced that to change you have to make changes in your life. I would absolutely recommend this class to someone else. If you are looking for a place to start the change process this an easy place to start. And I am as arrogant and stubborn as they come. But this place will give you tools to make those changes. My marriage is better than it has ever been! This class played a role in that."

"This has been a life changing experience for me and my wife. Thanks for this course, and the leaders and mentors who have inputted into our lives."

"Amazing weekend. I’m so grateful that we found AR and had this weekend and the resources afforded to us to help save our marriage. I feel like I witnessed miracles all around me all weekend. This will forever be ingrained as one of the most profound and meaningful weekends of my life. Thank you so much for your guidance and gifts."

"AR has helped me to finally understand aspects of infidelity and my marriage in a way that 15 years of counseling and Google help couldn’t. I will ever be grateful regardless of my marital status."

"My husband and I came to EMS searching for a miracle. We fought all the way here, from the moment we left the house to the 4 hour plane ride right up until check in. We were looking for a change. My husband, I discovered, was living a double life and having a 2 year affair with a woman who had no idea I existed. Needless to say, I was scared to be here. This weekend could break it or make it, and boy did we make it! We committed to the experience and are going home with a new perspective and an absolute for our future. I highly recommend EMS to any couple."

"Writing the "hurt letter" was a difficult but excellent exercise. Facing the pain I have caused and trying to understand it from my spouse's perspective and then having to see it written out on a piece of paper definitely moved my heart toward empathy for my spouse and healing for me. Thank you for this curriculum!"

"I was extremely anxious about working in a group. It was a community like no other. Not a club I ever wanted to be a part of, but one I desperately needed. I feel extremely hopeful, and more important, fully equipped with all of the tools we need to work toward reconciliation. "

"EMS Weekend exceeded any expectations I may have had. I experienced acceptance, compassion, patience, friendship, and support. All participants and AR team members were fantastic. Content has been super helpful and was presented in a manner that was easy to understand and apply. I am leaving EMS hopeful for my marriage where there was not much hope but more importantly I personally feel stronger and am able to recognize and accept that life will be OK whether my marriage works out or not. That is a relief."

"I feel more hopeful than ever before and this applies to a better marriage/future than we’ve ever had. Nothing short of magic!"

"This experience was nothing short of amazing. I am so grateful to have been able to participate in such a necessary but difficult opportunity. I am confident that God has planned to show us how to turn something that could have torn our family apart into a blessing that brings us closer together. "

"EMS came highly recommended from my therapist. In fact, he said it’s one of the best healing courses if not the best. I was apprehensive, scared, nervous, but he assured me it would be worth it and he was right. I experienced a whole new connection within myself, within my spouse and within our marriage."

"I arrived hopeless that this was the last effort. I am leaving knowing this is the beginning of our/my new life & marriage. Full of hope."

"I am so deeply grateful for the Hope for Healing Program. After my husband and I attended EMS Weekend one month after d-day, we had a strong start to our healing journeys. But I, as the unfaithful spouse, knew I needed a lot of support to understand how I had compromised my values so deeply, how my thinking could have become so distorted. I knew I needed to be fully accountable, understand myself, and what attitudes and behaviors would be healing and helpful in the future, as opposed to leading to anger, defensiveness, or relapse. I found all of that support in the weekly readings and videos in Hope for Healing, the skilled facilitation of our group leader, and the listening ear of my fellow group members. I'm now almost 6 months post d-day and planning to go through the material again to solidify what I have learned. Thank you, Affair Recovery!"

"It was more than I ever expected. I came into this weekend scared and very unsure of our marriage. I wasn’t sure we’d even make it here. We experienced change. New tools. Support. New friends. I feel so much hope for our marriage and believe change is possible."

"I was not sure what to expect during EMS. Part of me was afraid I was coming into an overly religious setting. I was wrong. I found myself surrounded by people experiencing a similar trauma. This was very comforting to me. For the first time I did not feel alone. I felt that I was able to finally breathe again."

"Wasn't exactly sure what to expect but had an amazing virtual experience – very inspired and hopeful about the future of our marriage and grateful for this organization. Hands down the best customer service all the way around that I have experienced in years."

"I completed the Harboring Hope course after finding out about my husband's long-term sexual addiction and infidelity. I would recommend this course to anyone regardless of their story or stage in discovering a spouse's betrayal. I feel empowered and armed with a healthier way of coping with this, regardless of my spouse's choices, because of this course. Thank you so much, Affair Recovery team! "

"Affair recovery has been an absolute blessing. I am excited to continue with Married For Life. I am excited for the new opportunities ahead for not only my marriage but for me as an individual. Affair Recovery has helped present or reveal these opportunities. I cant thank everyone involved at Affair Recovery enough! Thank you!"

"Highly recommend the program… seems like there were some common nuggets of information our group took away but also each person found individual value based on their story and where they are along the healing journey."

"Before coming to EMS Weekend, I was anxious, nervous, and scared. During the weekend, it opened my eyes to trauma, hurt, and empathy for myself and my husband. The experience and exercises here made me understand him much better. More than I knew from D-Day. I feel hopeful but also know I will be anxious, nervous, and scared at times – but the difference is I know now how to better tackle them and face them."

"I thought it was a website that SOLD people on an expensive seminar to line the pockets of the creators. I couldn’t have been more wrong. I am very thankful that I took the leap of faith to come."

"Before EMS weekend, I was at the end of a nearly two year wait for my husband to "get it." I was exhausted, hopeless and expecting to face the end of our marriage. I can't know what all the coming weeks, months or years will be, but I do know that today, I have hope they will be with the man I've called husband for 35 years. The therapists and everyone involved in EMS are the most insightful, authentic and helpful people I've encountered on this two-year journey. They are professionals, but they are people first–and that made all the difference. I didn't expect to be thinking about a hopeful future for my marriage because of one weekend, but here I am doing just that. I'm so glad we gave it a chance. "

"Thank you so much for leading us through this course with love, encouragement, and understanding!! We feel beyond blessed to know you and to have you guys beside us as we navigated the most difficult time in our lives."

"I didn’t expect much coming here. I came expecting to get through this and divorce my wife the following week. I never saw this coming. The information I received changed my conceptions and beliefs and some emotions. Made me look deeper and differently. I now have committed to my wife that divorce is off for at least 6 months and maybe forever. "

"I wasn’t sure what to expect, but by watching so many videos for almost a year, I already knew how helpful and essential the material and teaching would be. Rick and John were an absolute blessing in their teaching and being real. Thank you!"

"AR has been a lifesaver over the past 1.5 years. We found AR soon after d-day and went through the bootcamp, then took HFH and HH at the same time. I was nervous that we were “too far” for EMS but trusting because I’d had such good experiences with AR. The overall environment, the small group/community, the mentor couple, and several of the sections spoke strongly to me – particularly on forgiveness and preventing relapse. I think this “unstuck” the forgiveness that was lodged and helped me realize how many things I’ve already accepted without realizing it. It was the right next step in my and our healing journeys."

"I felt like the curriculum gave me the right amount of information about what to expect along with encouragement and hope (hope that I’m now having for the first time) that this mess and all my mixed up feeling, fears, and anger are normal and that there is possibly going to be a happy outcome. The leaders seemed to know just what to say and are very informative and empathetic. I feel very blessed to have them!"

"This was absolutely the best group tonight. The support and the encouragement as well as the insight from everyone helped to save me from walking away from everything. This group truly is a community with the same goal to heal. Thank you everyone."

"I came to EMS thinking it would be a place to get over my affairs. What I got were tools that I can use not just in my marriage but in my life. I got insights into the demons that have haunted me for a lifetime. I got an accountability group that I feel like I have known forever. I feel hope for my marriage that I thought may be gone forever."

"We heard mixed reviews about the EMS Weekend. Glad we pushed forward and attended! I definitely was dreading coming because I thought it would be a bash session on me (the unfaithful), but was definitely a very non-judgmental, caring, education and informative experience. I definitely am leaving with a different perspective and the tools to have a better marriage. I have high hopes and dreams for our marriage and future!!"

"I was expecting to find out more about what is behind being an unfaithful spouse and suggestions on how to work recovery. I experienced more than I could have imagined in learning about infidelity and ways that it can be understood. I feel that we have a lot of work but a better direction on how to do that work. "

"The value gained from this entire Hope For Healing course significantly outweighed the cost of participation. Our team leader was instrumental in guiding us through each call to gain perspective leading into the next week's lesson. Very thankful and grateful for AR."

"This has been 13 difficult weeks of introspection and hard work. I know its just the beginning, but we cant say enough positive things about the EMSO course. We've learned so much about ourselves and better ways to handle marital challenges. We are looking forward to Married for Life. Special thanks to our group leaders! "

"There were tears at the end of the meeting tonight as our EMS Online course has been completed. Our Group Leaders were incredible. We will miss them incredibly as we move on to Married for Life."

"D-Day was 3 weeks ago, so we are so fresh. We were hurting, depressed, and overwhelmed about where to start our healing journey. EMS Weekend was the absolute best thing we could have done. We feel so much connection and hope now and have connections with other couples that will last many years. Thank you for creating a sacred healing space for us, for showing us God’s love, and giving us amazing hope for a long and happy future together! "

"I had no expectations because I didn’t want to come. After EMS it made me feel hopeful about my marriage and future. It was an eye opener. As the strayed spouse it was able to alleviate the shame and help me find a common community with the same issues. "

"I honestly think I had medium to low expectations for the weekend. We had both been in and are currently in counseling. But the weekend exceeded my expectations. The biggest thing for me was definitely the feeling of community and not being judged. On Friday I saw couples that couldn’t even look at each other and by Sunday they were holding hands. I actually felt I was witnessing a miracle. "

"Came away feeling a real bond with our fellow group members and and that feeling of not being alone..."

"This was a stretching experience for me. A departure from anything I've ever done before. An act of desperation. Without it we likely would have continued on in on our own version of ineffectiveness...EMS helped to validate the reality of Me, You, and Us as three distinct entities, all of whom needed different and unique help...Providing tools and guidance in learning to develop empathy opened up a whole new world...Reaffirming that this is a single step on a long road is empowering. We're ten years from our initial D day."

"I experienced relief, renewal and felt for the first time ever that I am worthy and have value."

"Before EMS, I thought this place was going to be a "drink the Kool-Aid" type without actual real healing or understanding. But after coming here, the experience was totally different and made me realize, that it was my mindset that needed to change. I felt safe here that I could share information. It also made me feel not alone seeing other betrayed males here. I am hopeful for my marriage."

"Tonight was a great night, this week's curriculum was excellent. I feel so hopeful and inspired. I'm so thankful to have found AR. God bless you all for the work you're doing. Thank you to our group leader, he's the best!"

"This weekend offered a release of anger, hurt, bitterness and maybe, deep down, hate, contempt and years of built up resentment. EMS gave me the support and knowledge to do this with a team of individuals that made me feel safe to do so. They empowered me with new tools to better handle strife in my life and continued support after the conference was over. "

"I arrived skeptical, thinking this course would solidify my decision to stay in my marriage or leave. But the course works you from the inside out. It made me face my infidelity and the costs to my mate head on. Seeing my mate respond to my words of understanding the costs he has paid was a spotlight in my darkness that needed revealing. My heart is changed. I felt my skepticism in the salt I sprinkles in the bowl of water. Thank you."

"This program has been WONDERFUL and I've grown and learned so much from it. The biggest reason is our leader, who set the tone for being vulnerable and sharing, giving us a safe place to say things and explore things deep within us that, for me, I hadn't addressed or even knew existed. I can't say enough positive things about this group and how thankful I am that I took a gamble and tried it. THANK YOU!"

"What a difference in our marriage in the past 13 weeks. I truly understand what they mean when they say "pain with a purpose" and how the pain being transformed is not being transmitted like it was 13 weeks ago. We loved our Group Leaders and how they guided us through the course."

"I am so grateful for this course! Every lesson speaks directly to where I am right now in my betrayal recovery journey! I also so appreciate John and Leslie's compassionate perspective in developing and presenting this curriculum. I feel understood and not alone."

"We have been trying for over a year to find a good counselor. None were helpful for our situation until we came here."

"I thought I would be the only female betrayer, as well as judged for it. I wasn't! It has been surprising how safe this place has been and the progress made. I feel very hopeful about my marriage and the future."

"This week was the most needed lesson. The lesson forced both sides to have to look at each and see the effects instead of being wrapped up in their own pain. To finally feel understood is huge. Thank you!"

"This was a good week. While forgiveness isn’t an easy topic, it was eye opening to see all the types of forgiveness and the ways that it can help set me free, now and in the future….when the time comes and I’m ready to forgive. Thank You"

"Our Group Leader was exceptional. She showed kindness and empathy throughout the course. She took an interest in each of the participants and would often pray for them individually at the end of each class. On more than one occasion, the ladies in the group reached out to her for support and each time, she showed up for us with words of encouragement and the wisdom to help us get through the tough moments. We are both so grateful to have been a part of her class and that our lives were touched by both her and AR."

"......There is no quick instantaneous fix, but this program gives you the knowledge, power and tools to give you the best chance as succeeding."

"......The amount of hope, genuine connection, and love that has been reintroduced into our marriage is unmeasurable. I'm leaving here with a lot of hope for my marriage and for our future. "

"I regret not coming here sooner.........the things I learned over these three days will absolutely allow me to be the man that my wife truly deserves. There's not a doubt in my mind that we will be better than we've ever been before as we progress through recovery."

"I did not know what to expect about EMS weekend prior to coming. i was so anxious and didn't know if others would truly understand.........I made friends for life with my group and am so excited to have them as support going forward."

"For the first time in years my husband and I spent time alone and were able to laugh. I was able to see a glimpse of the man I fell in love with."

"EMS provided hope for our marriage. Walls came down and we were able to become vulnerable to each other. "

"I adore our group leaders. They inspire me and my husband and give us hope. This week was hard but I feel that the curriculum was excellent for developing empathy. I think my husband finally feels like I do get it. And maybe this could be a turning point for us! Thank you so much for this!"

"The curriculum was absolutely difficult, but necessary. It was heart breaking to share and hear other's stories, but made me feel like my husband and I aren’t alone in our journey and pain. "

"I was excited for the EMS weekend because my wife and I were at the end of our own strategies. As the weekend progressed I found concrete ideas, tips, and plans on how to improve my marriage. I learned how to effectively and deeply communicate with my wife. I could also see some relief come to my wife which in turn relieved me. At the end of the weekend I was filled with hope. On Sunday night, my wife and I did our Marriage Affirmation and developed a plan on how we were going to implement the other ideas. I was excited about Monday because I had all of these new tools that I wanted to begin using. I am confident that our marriage will be saved and will actually be stronger than before the affair. My wife and I agreed that the cost of the seminar was the best money we have ever spent on our marriage. Thank you to everyone at AR for making me feel comfortable and not judging me in the least. You truly made the weekend a safe place for me to open up. "

"I didn't know what to expect but I left the weekend feeling encouraged and optimistic about the future. We also felt empowered as this weekend provided tools and resources to help us through the next couple of weeks. Though we know the road will be long and hard we also know healing and reconciliation are possible."

"The exercises hit so close to home. This was another lesson that helped me further understand and take another step forward."

"Our group leader has been wonderful throughout this process. It was so comforting to know she knew what we were all feeling and experiencing. Overall, we are so grateful to have found A/R. We are already sharing with others what an incredible program this is. Our marriage and my mental and emotional well being were all in a desperate state when God led me to the A/R website. We feel blessed, hopeful and more healed. Maybe one day we can reach out and give back. It would feel good to help others and give them hope. We look forward to the MFL experience. God bless you all!"

"Had I not found this solution I may not have able to save my marriage, let alone save myself. I am 67 and a sex addict. My addiction was discovered and, needless to say, destroyed my marriage. I needed help and a route to recovery that was sustainable and measurable. I needed to find a way to give my wife proof of my intentions and ability to recover along with tools to support her in the hope we could survive and rebuild. Hope for healing and AR in general is a faith based platform, but even as an atheist I was able to adapt the program to take real value from it. The road to recovery is hard, it hurts and it is long BUT if you are sincere in your commitment to change, if you value hope to save your marriage and if you give in to it’s proven methods you can heal, you can change and you can begin again. I was in a very dark place with little hope, but I 100% committed to be a better me and Affair Recovery made my journey real and I continue today, after the course has finished to connect weekly with my group, to help them and receive help. I wish you a better future than you may see today, but I urge you to take the steps to recovery."

"I was very nervous going into the weekend. I expected what had been a very painful journey up to this point to get even more painful. There were, in fact, numerous points of pain that rose to the surface....We had a lot of additional discussion that was not easy but was necessary. Overall, the weekend helped us move forward in our recovery. Hearing from Rick's years of wisdom and from our facilitator's keen insight into our particular situation was extremely helpful. Our journey is not over; we have hope for the future, and [Virtual EMS] reinforced this for us."

"Hearing the group leader's story makes you feel even more comfortable."

"So grateful for this class and all the group leaders. Each week I grow more in understanding that God has my back no matter what. I thank God for Affair Recovery, you all do life changing work! God Bless You All!!"

"Insightful material that was valuable to our group once again. Thank you!"

"Wonderful and very compassionate. What an amazing program to help us heal no matter what the outcome will be, we are in a great place! Thank you and God Bless You All!"

"I found the content for this week‘s chapter on letting go to be incredibly helpful. Understanding that letting go is a process instead of a “one time thing“ it makes it so much more manageable and achievable in my mind. This week’s call with my small group was also so helpful. The ladies brought up so many fantastic points that I hadn’t even thought of, which makes me feel that my recovery will be more thorough and complete than it would have been if I were trying to do this on my own or even individually with a therapist. Seeing the situation from so many different perspectives is amazing. And our group leader was again an outstanding facilitator. From her supportive posts on our small group wall to the insight and guidance she provides during our call, having her as our leader is a tremendous blessing."

"I am hopeful for the future. We have a lot of work to do. My personal experience showed me that there are other issues that I need to deal with to get to the root of the problem and that there are solutions that are available to us. "

"After my wife asked if I would be willing to participate, I was very reluctant about the entire weekend. The unknown is always an issue for me. After the first small group session...I was "all in." I was able, not forced, to fully disclose my infidelity to my wife, this was extremely difficult, although it gave both of us a little bit of closure, and put us on the right path to recovery. All of the sessions, both small and large group sessions filled me with the confidence to do what is right, for my wife, myself, and ultimately our marriage. I thank my wife and the [Virtual EMS] crew for changing me forever. "

"Wasn't sure what to expect from this but had fully anticipated it only being another slightly helpful recovery step. I experienced a fully engaged team and a great group of people. It was a life changing experience for both my wife and I..."

"This has been the only counseling we have done that my partner (wayward) was invested in. I was so hopeful but also very nervous. I really didn't think I'd be able to open up as much as I did with people I had never met before, yet 3 days later we are already keeping in touch because we miss everyone so much. This is proof that God is at work! You gain confidence, peace, clarity, hope, and lifelong friends."

"I am so glad that I did the Harboring Hope course. My mentor was amazing and all the ladies were so courageous. It was great to know that I am not alone and I am not going crazy. I learned that I will be okay no matter what the future holds. Recovery is about taking baby steps and I am glad that I am a lot of steps further than I was before taking this course. I can definitely see a bright future ahead of me."

"I was very apprehensive about the [Virtual EMS Weekend] because the discovery was still very new (6 weeks ago). The weekend was extremely hard but also very helpful because we could be open and authentic with those in our group which helped to alleviate loneliness and isolation....Although parts of the weekend are extremely painful, those moments of shared pain brought us closer together because we were both safe to express our feelings in a supportive environment."

"The curriculum for this week was great. I had alot of realizations from this week & the material helped me to gain those along with the video. I gained some great techniques to use when I feel angry which I haven't had to use yet but will keep at the forefront of my mind. Thank you!"

"I am impressed by the empathy and professionalism. These men are sharing their warts. You fostered a safe environment, empathized effectively yet held us accountable with realistic expectations. Thank you."

"Our Group Leader does an excellent job managing the group and getting everybody to speak and open out. These sessions have been excellent for me in gaining new tools to help me deal with various aspects of empathy, humility and learning to be vulnerable."

"This was out final week with our Sherpa [Group Leader]. He was so gentle and kind over the past 13 weeks. We were fortunate to have him guide us. Now onto our self guided portion. We feel well prepared because of [his] leadership. "

"What an incredible exercise. It was so healing to be seen first by the material/videos, and then even more importantly by my husband."

"I completed Harboring Hope to pursue healing after discovering my husband had been repeatedly sexually unfaithful before, during and after my first pregnancy. The course helped normalize what I was feeling (sadness, numbness, anger) and helped point to a way forward. It emphasized my healing, regardless of the decision I make about my marriage. The course content was encouraging, as was connecting with other women going through similar things. I appreciate that Affair Recovery only chooses facilitators who have experienced infidelity. My facilitator's oft repeated quote "If a perfect marriage were required to prevent infidelity, everyone would be doomed" took away some of the remaining self-blame. I can be responsible for how I show up in relationship, but I am NOT responsible for my mate's infidelity. I highly recommend this course, whether you recently discovered your mate's infidelity or whether you've been on this journey a while."

"It was a year an a half after D day that I found the Harboring Hope course. Before that I tried everything, therapy, meditation and reading copious amounts of books. They all helped, but the group of guys all in the same boat as me with the beautifully crafted course material was what really has launched me from surviving to thriving. I feel like I got my life back and am feeling heard, seen and supported. Thank you very much for this beautiful gift to us betrayed men."

"It's getting to the point where I NEED to be with these guys and our group leader. I'm at peace amongst a group of people wanting to be better people. When I hang up, I'm back to my life where every moment is a struggle and I have to face the guilt and shame from my community of friends."

"The opportunity this group has given me is such a ray of light during the most challenging time in my life. Thank you AR!"

"This week’s lesson was about how to find meaning in our suffering. This journey through the pain of infidelity has resulted in a healthier perspective of my persevering through the trials of my life. God has used this experience to show me how I could be in the present moment even with all its imperfection."

"This course has been instrumental in my coming to the point that I could let go of the past hurt and let God be in control of the situation. Taking EMS Online laid a great foundation before taking Harboring Hope. It was such a blessing to have participated in this course with Rachel as the leader and the six women who were in the group. There is no doubt that God put this wonderful group of ladies together at the right time in our lives!"

"I was not sure what to expect coming into the weekend especially that we were not able to be there physically and had to attend virtually. I was absolutely blown away by the entire weekend. Rick is amazing and has a way of explaining things to really hit home. I hung onto every word. I feel extremely hopeful for our marriage, and I can honestly say a few of the exercises that my husband did as the unfaithful spouse really helped me heal in a way that we were not capable of doing on our own. We connected on another level that I was praying for but I thought he just didn't "get" my pain. Well, he did, he just needed a way to be able to express it to me that I would be able to receive it. I also felt like I could finally let my guard down and stop pretending normal for once. I felt so safe with our group to be able to do so. I now can say my husband is not the only one with hope for our marriage. Thank you so much Rick and the entire Affair Recovery staff for being present, and most importantly, open and honest with us."

"It really helps to have a group leader that has gone through the pain of infidelity. A leader that hadn't just wouldn't be the same."

"I just completed Harboring Hope. I am currently in the process of recovering from my husband’s year long physical affair with a coworker. It has been challenging but also quite a growth experience. I wish I had known before taking the class how much I would look forward to the weekly calls and the relationships that have been built. Our leader was kind, encouraging, and incredibly supportive. I would highly recommend anyone going through this awful experience to seek out the support of this group experience."

"I just can't say enough good things about both the curriculum and my group leader. It has been just such a refreshing cool drink of water with Leslie and John's workbook and video series. Finally, an approach for betrayed spouses that doesn't do more harm via a therapist.. They are truly insightful and responsible with the brokenhearted. My group leader is such a blessing. She has taken her brokenness and used it as a healing balm for the women in our group."

"Our Group Leader was an excellent leader. She always made me feel relaxed, reassured & hopeful. Yet she expressed how much she understood and didn’t sugarcoat. Thank you to her & thank you AR - & Leslie & John for this program. It is a life changer."

"Always excellent. I look forward to each week. The curriculum is both tough and gentle, if that makes any sense. It is so valuable! This class has afforded me the comradery that I have so needed for decades, that even my dearest of lifelong friends have not been able to give to me. It is just the shared pain that this sisterhood brings that allows us to not bring judgement, but rather a healing balm for each other. Our leader is so prepared every week, she is awesome! The pain that she personally suffered from the personal betrayal in her own life has not been wasted. She brings such wisdom and comfort to each one of us. I know we are all so grateful for her! She is just terrific! "

"I was nervous about how helpful this would be. I was hopeful but cautious....I do appreciate the guidance for the betrayed on how we can become the best version of ourselves through our greatest pain. We do not like the ugly side of us through this and you helped guide us in a gentle and compassionate manner with practical advice. [Virtual EMS Weekend] was life changing…"

"I find that the curriculum is really spot on. We are only in the first chapter, but already it is getting into issues that I have been trying to get counselors to address for years, but they just don’t seem to have any understanding of the trauma of betrayal."

"We've enjoyed AR so much - and it has given us so many helpful tools to use on this long journey of recovery! It gives us hope that even after an affair not all is lost."

"This week's work was incredibly helpful. I had a breakthrough in letting go of my husband's healing. Thank you!"

"We had a wonderful group leader, always kind and validating. My group was wonderful. I am praying for the beautiful recovery sisters as they continue their journey of healing. The curriculum was very helpful. I am encouraged to know how much that God loves me and He will help me as I lean into Him. I want to come to complete forgiveness of my husband and all the women he had sexual encounters with in God’s time. I have learned that I need to grieve well and that forgiveness is not cheap. It is costly to my soul and God is greater than any evil power that wishes me harm. God is able. I can trust Him. Thank you for this course and for continued access to the library. It has been very helpful in my healing journey. Many blessings."

"I started Harboring Hope because of my spouse's infidelity. During the course, I learned: 1) How my affair had hurt my spouse. How I wished we had gotten help for our marriage. 2) How the things I was feeling were normal. 3 ) It was sad/good to have others dealing with the same thing at the same time. 4) That you can’t just expect it — pain, thoughts, anger and bitterness — to go away. 5) That counseling is a good thing. 6) Last, but really should be first, God’s plan may not be what I want."

"Both the rich and material and the videos are very helpful. When paired with the follow-up questions and our small group, they lead to greater understanding of the process. I can say in earnest that the 7-day boot camp, the materials on the website, and Harboring Hope are helping me. The greatest help though is the support you're providing to my husband. He is making himself vulnerable and accessible and honest in a way that I've never seen before. I thank God for your work and want to get the message out to so many people about the support you provide."

"So impactful taking Harboring Hope! The lessons in there should be taught overall. Well worth the time and another step to healing. Thank you!!!!"

"Our leader was absolutely amazing. I loved this program. It was life changing. Thank you!"

"This has been the best experience on my journey to recovery. I had almost completely lost my faith and hope but my group has helped me find it again. Thank you!!!"

"I discovered my husband’s infidelity and porn addiction 15 years into our marriage. It felt like the ground was removed from under my feet. My whole perception of reality was taken from me. I felt broken, lost and honestly didn't have much hope for ever feeling "normal" again. I heard about Affair Recovery through a friend who had gone through infidelity and sexual addiction in her marriage. After two more discoveries and my husband signing up for Hope for Healing, I signed up for Harboring Hope. Like most women who join the betrayed spouse side of things, I started out hurt and upset that I was forced into a healing I never asked for. Right from the first chapter, I found language for what I was going through. Not only was I suddenly not so alone, but I also had people who understood the absolute train wreck of emotions I was feeling. Every chapter, though painful, offered me a choice: to heal or to stay put. I'll admit, I have a long way to go, but every week brought truth and clarity to me. In a time when everything feels about as clear as mud, Harboring Hope really helped me find some stable ground again."

"My husband and I just finished EMS Online. D-Day was last December, and ever since then we have started our journey of healing with the help of Affair Recovery — first with the seven-day bootcamp and later with EMSO. I was not sure I wanted to try EMSO because I could not imagine sharing the most painful thing that ever happened to me with complete strangers, when I find it impossible to talk about our story with anyone except our counselor. I am so thankful that my husband convinced me to give EMSO a try. I can honestly say that we are already in a much better place now than we were 13 weeks ago, and that the people who were strangers at the beginning have now become essential to us in our healing. I am happy to say that we have all decided to continue with the Married for Life program. EMSO is amazing; it helped us get through the first incredibly painful weeks after learning about the infidelity. We both learned valuable lessons about love, communication, marriage and how to deal with the trauma of infidelity. We learned lessons that are essential for healthy relationships (not only marriage), which we know will be helpful to our individual recovery. I would definitely recommend both Affair Recovery courses to others. We found an incredible amount of hope in the mentor videos. Just seeing how others who have already walked this path share that the pain and hard work are worth it, and that we can find a much better marriage on the other side, encouraged us the past few months. "

"I am so extremely sad that our course is over. I learned much more than I ever expected and I have grown more than I ever expected. Our group leader was nothing short of amazing!! So funny, so real, so empathic and loving. I will miss her tremendously. Our mentor will be an amazing leader. She was a wealth of information and inspiration!! I am really going to miss my group."

"Since my now ex-husband told me about his infidelity and left, the decision to complete Harboring Hope has been one of the best ones I have made. While I embarked on the journey of recovery hand in hand with God and a few trusted friends, I knew I would definitely benefit from people who have walked this painful path before me. What convinced me that Affair Recovery was the right choice is the fact that they are a Christian, Christ-centred ministry of trained people who have walked through the pain of betrayal themselves and come out on the other side successfully. I have loved every single session of HH. It has really helped me to understand better why the affair happened in the first place and why it's not my fault. Because I needed to answer the sometimes difficult questions in the workbook, it also encouraged me to journal and walk through the grief and pain with God rather than avoid it. It was also fantastic to be able to talk at the small group and know that I am not alone on the path of recovery. Finally, I absolutely loved that the whole course was filled with so much hope and encouraged me to trust in God and keep Him at the center of my healing journey. Likewise, I found the topics very relevant and helpful. Last but not least, I found it very easy to complete the course from outside of the United States and connect with my small group based in the U.S. Thank you so much for the amazing work you are doing at Affair Recovery, I am so grateful!"

"We loved our group leaders. They were caring, knowledgeable, supportive and everything we could have asked for in a mentor during a difficult passage in our lives. Thank you from the bottom of my heart."

"I was shocked. I was hesitant that I would be allowed in a group because everywhere I have turned thus far has basically said "figure it out," "tough it out." etc. and not been able to really help me actually do those things."

"I just completed the Harboring Hope program. My husband was unfaithful to me emotionally, physically and sexually with a co-worker. What I wished I would’ve known is that forgiveness and reconciliation are two different things. People who refuse to forgive can never live their own lives, they are too busy obsessing about the life of the one who hurt them. They are stuck. They are unable to enjoy friends, family or even their children. They imprison themselves in a bondage of their own making. I definitely recommend the Harboring Hope program as a support for healing. To be in a safe community with other women who know what you’re going through and how you’re feeling is comforting. Whether you’re able to reconcile or not, there is hope. The program provides a lot of supportive articles and videos, which I have watched and found encouragement in to help with understanding and healing my pain."

"In June 2019, my husband of 40 years told me that he’d been having an affair. He also admitted that he became addicted to watching pornography during his affair. After much soul-searching on both of our parts, we decided to attempt to save our marriage. We saw a marriage counselor and individual counselors. In many ways, our marriage became better than ever, but I still had so much hurt. That’s when I began to look online for support groups and found Harboring Hope. Harboring Hope is appropriately named because that’s exactly what the course did for me — it gave me hope, hope that I could heal and hope that our marriage could survive and even thrive. Although the course is written from a religious viewpoint, it’s easily applicable to anyone. A few of us were working on our marriages, and two women were healing on their own. Our group leader had experienced betrayal, a divorce and then a reconciliation, so she was definitely able to relate to all of us. I would definitely recommend Harboring Hope to any betrayed spouse who is looking for healing. It's wonderful to be with a group of people who understand your pain and are all striving to heal."

"So grateful for this course, it’s honestly beginning to completely turn my life upside down, in the best of ways possible! Thank you!!"

"My Hope for Healing class with Affair Recovery was an important factor in allowing me to understand both why I had my affair and how to recover my marriage. The step-by-step lessons and our weekly group conversations provided valuable tools to help me deal with the emotional damage that an affair can cause."

"My husband has cheated off and on for 25 years of our marriage and recently admitted as much. This course helped to level my bad temper, raging anger and other emotions a betrayed goes through. It got me to slow down and consider all my options before using a knee-jerk reaction. I would recommend Harboring Hope to anyone who is lost looking for hope. You will come away with the strength to do what will be right for you!"

"Our Group Leaders both facilitated and contributed to this week’s session in a very impactful and empathetic way. The letters read by all participants were insightful. I can see the work that is being done! So glad our friend signed us up for this. I was “ugh” at first but now I’m thankful!"

"I would like to say thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for your ministry and the materials you have provided as part of EMSO and Married for Life. We, all five couples that started EMSO, have just completed the Married for Life 52-week course. We are now deciding what to study next as a group, as we so value the relationship we have together as couples. With God, with your materials and with each other, we have saved our marriages. I don't know how often all five couples survive intact 18 months after starting the EMSO course, but we are all very thankful. We are talking about attending a marriage conference in the future, where we all attend in-person together. I am hopeful that all five couples will have long marriages with the work we have put in. "

"It's nice to hear others who are going through what you are - and how they are handling it."

"I'm a betrayed man married to my spouse for 15 years. After learning of my wife's affair, I was totally incapacitated, shattered pieces on the ground. I was determined to survive but without any belief that recovery was possible. Today, I am nearly one year out from D-Day and can say with certainty we wouldn't be here without EMSO — it was invaluable. The resources gave me something to hold on to when I found myself "swimming underwater in the dark." Infidelity involves both trauma and death for the betrayed. Surviving and healing the trauma is necessary in order to grieve the death of yourself, and then comes the hard work of reestablishing a loving bond with the "tiger that mauled you." It requires a ton of courage, tenacity and endurance, but it's worth it. Hang in there people, you can get bitter or get better. This is an opportunity to transform your life into the one you've always wanted. Affair Recovery WILL help you get there. "

"As this was our last group session we were sad but know how much we have gained in our recovery process. Our group leader and mentor were fabulous. Our group is continuing on in Married for Life. Thank you for saving our marriage."

"I'm surprised every time I study the week's material - about how deep and strategically placed it is among all the issues that need to be processed."

"I am a 32 year old newlywed who never expected to end up here. My husband began his affair with his ex-girlfriend just 3 months after our wedding when she messaged him on Instagram to ask "How's married life?" Harboring Hope has given me the tools to confront the betrayal head-on, outwardly and inwardly, and a community of other women who know exactly how I feel. I've learned how to grieve, and how to really feel those scary emotions like anger and sadness, and allow them to transform me. I've learned what forgiveness really means and what it doesn't mean. I've learned to be vulnerable and ask for help. I've learned about what trauma does to your brain and body, and how I can create a sense of safety in my life again. The most important lesson I learned: you did not deserve to be hurt the way you did, but it is your job to pick yourself up and learn how to walk again. You will be so proud of yourself once you do! "

"I did not want to do this at all. Totally against it. Broke down my barriers, extremely helpful. Hopeful....see the glimmer now! [Virtual EMSW Participant]"

"Before EMS, I had uncertainty about the future of our marriage and my future. I know we have a long road ahead but I’m encouraged. I feel we have tools necessary to begin our journey to heal. We have both committed to this process. Our small group was wonderful and it was helpful to see their situations and the similarities of our emotions. [Virtual EMS Weekend]"

"Thank you for everything, your course has given us a chance to work through things, we have lots of work to do, but you have laid the path for a chance at reconciliation that I surely did not think was possible 13 weeks ago."

"Thank you very much for the help. We did not miss a single session. It was hard, but great. The facilitators were also very good! All the best from both of us!"

"After completing Harbouring Hope, I wasn’t sure that I was in a place to be able to encourage others. But, I want to tell you if it weren’t for Affair Recovery, I literally do not know where I would be...I was and still am determined to not let what my husband has done to make me into a bitter person. I would strongly encourage everyone that has had the misfortune of experiencing this most gut-wrenching pain to join Harbouring Hope."

"I was introduced to Affair Recovery by a friend from church who completed the program years ago. She was trying to help me through my husband's recent infidelity. I had just been married for 5 months when he first admitted to cheating...I felt like if he just never did it again we would be fine...However, things quickly started to reveal itself and fast forward to 4 months later and my husband's girlfriend of almost 3 years shows up at my doorstep...In the midst of this I found out I was pregnant, my husband promised he was no longer in a relationship with the other woman....One quiet tearful night alone I finally logged onto Affair Recovery and signed up for the free 7 day boot camp. Answering those questions showed me I needed Affair Recovery more than I thought. Although my husband's infidelity was his choice and problem, healing from it in a healthy way was my responsibility. Going over the questions showed me I wasn't doing that and desperately needed to heal correctly. One thing that stood out to me was the 20 mistakes the betrayed spouse made, I had made almost all of them if not all. I wish I would have had this list sooner and I would have known to try and avoid these mistakes. The Harboring Hope small group was great. I got to bond with other women going through betrayal like me. They helped me not feel crazy when I shared my story. They comforted me through the pain of being pregnant and my husband not being around. The workbook was so helpful, especially the lessons on forgiveness and finding meaning in your suffering. I know I will go back to that workbook for refreshing and encouragement as I continue through this season in my marriage. I would highly recommend Affair Recovery to anyone going through betrayal. I have actually already suggested it to quite a few women. I encourage any betrayed spouse to partake in Affair Recovery, it's such a great support system with so many different resources. There's videos, forums to ask questions from others, and of course the best part Harboring Hope. I encourage you that even though things may feel out of your control, the one thing that is in your control is your healing! Affair Recovery will help you take a step closer to gaining that control. "

"Our Group Leader led us through the tough HURT letters with an unflinching touch. Some of us are truly experiencing brokenness and it is sad and beautiful all at the same time. Thanks AR for the community - us men rarely, if ever, find a safe spot to share all our yuck."

"Thank you to my Group Leader, for everything. We would not be where we are without you and this program. I can't believe how different things are today from the beginning of the course. The first few weeks were rough but having you and the group to lean on kept the progress moving forward. Thank you so much!"

"Two years after our second D-Day (discovery of infidelity), we still found ourselves disconnecting and struggling to find the proper style of support. My partner was an unfaithful who had gone through Hope For Healing at my request. That got us involved in the AR community and was the first real resource hub we found targeted to our problems. Aside from that, we had on-and-off relationships with a couple of different therapists who were in way over their heads as generalists unfamiliar with the heightened situation infidelity brings. We both agreed we needed some form of 'specialist' and that we were still pretending things were better in our relationship. We weren't fully healed; we were simply avoiding it because finding the right resources were hard. I wish I would've known how logical the course information was, which made it really applicable to improving our daily interactions with each other. Despite all the heightened emotions, AR really hones in on just that next step closer to safety between the two of you. If we'd known that, we probably would've jumped into EMSO much sooner without stalling our recovery for almost a year. As a betrayed partner, I learned more about myself, my relationship patterns, and my coping mechanisms. Some were unhelpful to our healing, even though in a 'fair' world, my partner should have been the one to fix everything. The world isn't fair, and at the end of the day, I learned how much I had to give to recovery to move past the pain. I was still here because I did ultimately want to reconcile if the change could occur. However, it didn't occur to me that I was cultivating an environment that wouldn't allow that. This allowed me to watch my partner step up, be vulnerable, do the work, and take the personal responsibility I was looking for. Week after week, I saw the effort and vulnerability being put in from his end as well. We learned that relapse doesn't just mean another sexual occurrence. It can mean the beginning of disconnect between us again; it can be reverting to behaviors that were present leading into infidelity, it could be entertaining high-risk situations. We learned how to protect each other from our flaws and have realistic expectations of continuing a healthier long-term commitment. I'd absolutely recommend AR, and it's courses to anybody going through this very specific, debilitating, and isolating issue. Professionalism, care, and discretion are all present backed by simple logic and psychology that hits the mark. If you're spinning your wheels looking for somewhere to get started, just start here. Much of the material can be religious, as are most AR members. We weren't, but that didn't stop us from growing, healing, and getting value from being part of the community. If you are into faith, then that is just going to be a bonus for you. The pain does subside, but the effort is required. We'd want you to have hope that, as cliche, as it sounds, things do get better. Although it's awkward to put a positive spin on these situations, you can and likely will develop a new bond that is 1000% better than your previous relationship together. You got this. Know that you're normal when you're struggling with your new reality. Your world has shattered, but you could just end up rebuilding it even better, following the past that is safest for everyone involved. Cheers to your own healing adventure. "

"Curriculum is very good. I’ve been going down this road for a long time now. I should have done this sooner and I feel like it’s making me see and admit this whole situation more clearly and making me move to more acceptance finally. Our group leader has been beautiful and caring and real. I have to say the same about our mentor. It’s nice to have both these women caring for my heart. For all of our hearts. Everyone in the group have been beautiful as well. I’m sorry for them but at same time happy for all the good company I am finally holding. Thank you for this program and Affair recovery.com. It’s been my loving friend for a long time now."

"When I came to Affair Recovery I was desperate for some direction on how to deal with the overwhelming emotions that I was dealing with. I was married for 8 years to a man who had multiple affairs. He was unwilling to do the work in the relationship to heal from this betrayal and trauma so I decided I couldn't stay in the marriage. I divorced him and though that was it. I moved to another state and started over. I met a man and fell in love again. 4 years into the relationship I found out he had been having multiple affairs. I was devastated to be here again! I was so lost at what to do. In my marriage I had reached out to friends and family for their support and I found that this caused so much more confusion and trauma. I decided not to reach out to anyone that had never been through this before or never healed themselves. I started searching online for help and quickly found Affair Recovery...My first call with Harboring Hope was incredibly emotional and hard to get through but I was desperate and the women on the call were just like me, broken, looking for hope. I took comfort in this. I felt safe. The workbook and videos each week were full of wisdom, and understanding, and gentle guidance through the emotional roller coaster that is recovery. I am forever grateful for this organization, and for the men and women who have been through this before, taking the time out of the their own stories to help me heal. "

"My husband of 13 years had a five-month emotional affair with a co-worker. I found out while he was on Facebook. He was unsure what he wanted to do, whether to stay or go. I was determined to work on our marriage. After 7 months of hard work, communication, and going through Harboring Hope, I can proudly say that we are at a better place than I ever thought possible. We still have a long way to go, but this class has been a start of greater communication for our marriage. Harboring Hope has been the catalyst to a new and improved relationship not only with my husband but also with God. I have found that I do NOT always have to control things, that God is there to help me see the light through the darkness. I just have to stop and listen and allow true healing to occur. Throughout the 13 weeks of Harboring Hope - I have been come a stronger woman. I have read each chapter, allowing God back into my life, and examining my pain. If it wouldn't have been for our group leader and the women of the group, I would not have seen the "light." They were supportive and kept things in perspective for me. I will always cherish their comments of love and support. Even if my marriage does not survive, I know that with the help of Harboring Hope, Leslie, and John, as well as my group members, I will survive! Through the roughest and toughest of times, you are worthy of LOVE and being cherished. I would HIGHLY recommend this course to anyone seeking guidance while trying to survive an infidelity crisis. It has been a life saver! "

"I just finished up the Hope for Healing program and it has been very helpful on my journey to recovery with my wife. I am an unfaithful husband who had developed an addiction to porn, fantasizing about sex and objectifying women. These programs, along with my individual counseling, have shown to me just how devastating and destructive my behaviors were to my wife and our marriage. The H4H program has helped me to develop more empathy for my wife and to recognize the necessity of owning my mistakes and taking responsibility for my actions. The program also helped me to learn certain techniques to help my wife with the healing she needs. The last part of the program has been helpful in mapping out a plan to keep from relapsing once the program ends. The camaraderie that formed with the other men in my group was very helpful as we became teammates in working to help each other out during rough times and to also be a sounding board of ideas and thoughts. I am looking forward to continuing the connection to the men after the program ends. The program isn't set up to coddle you and tell you that you didn't do anything wrong, it's to hold you responsible and to help you develop the tools to help yourself in your recovery work. I definitely encourage anyone who is working towards reconciliation after an infidelity to seriously consider taking the class. You will get out of it as much as you put into it."

"This class was awesome! In spite of the pain we are all going through, we were actually able to laugh a little as we addressed delicate issues related to infidelity. It was our last class but I am glad we are not just saying goodbye, but we are continuing to stay in touch and be there for each other. Thank you to my Group Leader for your ears and support. You are awesome! Thank you 😊"

"I was so down going into this call...thinking how in the world can anyone even forgive or move forward with a spouse that has done the unspeakable and this is just got to be a hoax...this call really was a turning point for me and us and thank you! I have a sense of hope I have never had"

"Our group leader was a fabulous facilitator! We were blessed to have his consistent, warm responses that made us all feel valued and heard. This was a great experience and I'm so grateful for our leader, the curriculum, and our group! Thanks!"

"The course in my opinion is a definite must in order to heal the way you need. It helps you become whole again."

"I have learned a tremendous amount with this program and I'm extremely grateful we discovered this and the videos. Thank you so much! I am hopeful!"

"We had signed up for the EMS weekend a year earlier, but we were unable to go and I’m so disappointed that we didn’t. I wish we would’ve gone earlier. [Virtual EMS Weekend]"

"I didn’t know what to expect. I was done. I had maybe 2% left. I figured we take the course and it would confirm we were done. My husband did not want to attend the weekend at all. I was prepared to file divorce papers Monday; he said divorce would be a welcomed relief. Sunday he thanked me for insisting we do the weekend. He said he realized he had a lot of personal growth to do (I realized the same thing). I can imagine our 4 kids thanking Rick and the other staff years from now. We both recognize we have a long road a head of us, but for the first time in a long time we both have hope. It was worth every penny!!! [Virtual EMS Weekend] "

"Each week, the material really hits home. As much as I would like for this to be over and on to totally better days, your course gives many pictures of complete healing and what that takes. Many times, the pain is at an intensity level I've never experienced and your rich vault of wisdom explains what is more than likely happening. Thank you and God bless you!!>>"

"This was the last week of the course. I cannot begin to express how great our group leaders have been. It has been a great pleasure and honor to be in this course. The course material has been fantastic, and I am sure I will be referencing the material often for personal growth and reflection. Thank you."

"This Harboring Hope Recovery Course for Betrayed Spouses was a Godsend! The curriculum helped me to understand what I've been experiencing and gave me some clarity on how to manage my pain and begin recovery. The weekly phone calls were so very helpful because everyone in the group understood the pain and was empathetic. I recommend this course to anyone who is suffering from betrayal... My faith was shaken and this course acknowledged that wrestling with God about the pain I suffered was normal and to be expected, but not to give up hope that I would heal with God alongside me. This book is not a cure-all but a faith-based way to begin the journey of recovery instead of tucking the pain away and moving into denial-only to have the pain to come back with a vengeance later. Recovery will take much longer than the 12 weeks of this course, but it showed me how to "do my own recovery work". I am definitely going to start my book again (right away) from the beginning and work through each lesson again and again until it really begins to become a part of me so that I can move forward with hope. I am so grateful for this course!"

"I would like to comment on the course as a whole. I am the unfaithful spouse and today on the call my spouse said that they had started the course as a last ditch effort before divorce, but they now see hope for our marriage. We are continuing with Married for Life and I am grateful not only for EMSO and all that it has taught us about how to recover from infidelity, but that it also provides us with materials on how to rebuild a solid marriage and the tools to move forward. I cannot count how many times I have thanked God for Affair Recovery over the past 13 weeks."

"I am an unfaithful wife who grew up in a Christian environment and believed herself to be a good girl all her life yet here I was signing up for this group... Didn't know how and why it happened and who I was anymore. This course revealed more than what I knew I could understand about myself. It completely changed the way I think about myself, life, and marriage. The only regret was that I didn't sign up sooner. "

"I took the 13-week online course for couples to heal after Infidelity and to be honest I don't think my wife and I would be together if not for this course. The shock of discover that my wife was having an emotional online affair (sexting as well) with her counselor shook my world and hers as well. We had no idea where to start and immediately googled where we could seek help from. It was a blessing that Affair Recovery was high on the list of options. Once we opened the website and read the information, we immediately completed the 7-day Bootcamp (free) and soon after we signed up for the 13-week course. As the betrayed spouse I was hesitant and almost resistant to enter any type of program, but at the end of the day I wanted to salvage my marriage or at the very least find out why my wife entered into an affair. The lessons provided me with a step by step guide with how to navigate the ugly truth about affairs. I had no idea prior to the course about flooding, triggers, intrusive thoughts, empathy and that there was a way forward after an affair. Affair Recovery provided hope where I thought there was none. Along the way I did gain understanding as to why my wife entered into her affair. I am better off as a person and husband in taking the course. It forced or nudged me to look at myself and the role I play/played in the marriage. In many ways it brought my wife and I closer together and for this I am grateful to Rick and all the people at Affair Recovery. We just finished the course (August 2020) and we are not out of the woods at all. One thing I learned from Affair Recovery is that there are no quick fixes and that it will take time for the marriage to heal. Also, there will be pain but if we put in the effort our marriage will be stronger than it was before the affair. I truly believe this even though there are still some very difficult days and moments. The course definitely has taught me how to deal with those difficult days and moments in a much safer manner. It's not a 'club' any of us want to belong to but if you find yourself in this 'club', I can confidently say Affair Recovery is the place you want to land and land in as quickly as possible."

"I completed EMS Online with my wife (thank God we're still married). I'm the unfaithful partner. We also finished the Bootcamp in the weeks leading up to EMS Online, which was amazing and highly recommended. There is hope. Please push through the pain and uncomfortable discovery. Ask God for help. And follow the curriculum's guidance. You can heal."

"I am very grateful I was introduced to AR and I enrolled in Harboring Hope. Right after I discovered that my husband had an affair I was devastated. I needed someone to talk to that would understand exactly what I am going through. For me the group from HH and the materials in the course were a blessing. I could understand so much more about the affair and about what it takes to heal. I would highly recommend. "

"Affair Recovery resources literally saved my life...in my darkest hour of despair, after learning of my husband's affair. I enrolled in Harboring Hope for additional support and it was a tremendous help and enriching experience for me. I found encouragement, love and "hope" through a group of women who spoke the same language as me and who understood my pain. I highly recommend Harboring Hope for betrayed spouses!"

"Thanks to everyone. My wife had to talk me into this because I was already in an Every Man's Battle Accountability group, but it was worth every penny. I will recommend this recovery group to anyone that comes to me in the future trying to recover from an affair. Awesome program."

"This group has changed our lives! From the non-judgemental, open, encouraging, atmosphere that you all have created by rules such as listening (not giving advice), the support you supply through conversations, the lessons and all the resources. You all give guidance on how to change a horrible situation into one of positive change, by realizing that we are not alone and that there is amazing support available through groups like Affair Recovery. Our group leader was a constant guiding light with a positive demeanor that set the group up for tremendous forward progress. Thank you!"

"I believe for us this has been the best and most effective and efficient way to learn and recover. I don't believe we would have ever made these strides with a couple’s therapist. I was ambivalent when I started and now I am hopeful. Group leader was absolutely wonderful with all of us. So compassionate and open. I'm so thankful he was assigned to our group. His input and experiences were so helpful. He was kind, gentle and gracious with all of us making us all feel comfortable. He gets 5 stars from us. Thanks so much."

"For some reason I find the EMSO to be a very "safe space" for me. It is heartbreaking hearing people grieve over the betrayal, but somehow I know that we can be there for one another. Great way to start the course, Our group leader did well - great job. I am looking forward to the next 13 weeks, although I know there will be many hard times as well. Thank you."

"Before arriving at EMS, I was hesitant and didn't believe that 3 days would do anything to help the state of my marriage (which was broken beyond recognition). I didn't believe that a group of strangers would help me open up to the extent that I did. Lastly, I had no faith in the idea that I would ever feel connected to anyone in that group or want to stay in touch with them. However, at the end of EMS weekend, all of the assumptions and reluctance that I had prior was completely gone. Within 3 days, I was able to share feelings to my wife that I hadn't our entire marriage, I understood the damage I did on our marriage more, and most importantly her pain and anger………..It gave myself and my wife hope that we could have a great marriage in the future as long as we take what we have learned through EMS and continue to apply. [Virtual EMS Weekend]"

"Before EMS weekend my spouse and I were at a standstill and we were losing hope. After going through EMS Weekend and participating in the sessions and activities, we have a whole new outlook on our future...we BOTH have a better understanding of where we were and where we are now going...forward, with love, respect, support, and determination. [Virtual EMS Weekend] "

"When we first signed up for this EMS Weekend I had some reservations for how beneficial 3 days can be because my wife and I have had counseling before and they took weeks to cover enough ground to begin making head-way………..For as much trauma, hate, and resentment we had, we were stuck in our recovery, just circling the wagon. It was amazing to see how my pain started to subside after the first day and half and I started to see more of my wife’s heart and also see that she was "Getting it" and by the end I felt that I was on my way to forgive and move past something that I have been holding onto for months. I feel that our marriage has been given a shot or boost up the ladder in the right direction. I am much more hopeful and optimistic for our future. [Virtual EMS Weekend]"

"Was a little disappointed that the virus kept postponing the in person retreat, but we really enjoyed the virtual experience. I am extremely hopeful for our marriage. I believe the weekend fast tracked our healing and gave us a ton of materials to rebuild our marriage. Thank you! [Virtual EMS Weekend]"

"Great experience for the past 13 weeks - we have really learned a lot in the last three months. I will highly recommend this course to others. We also appreciated our group leader's input each week - she made it very comfortable for everyone in a very uncomfortable situation (marital infidelity). She did a great job!"

"The grieving section was so hard!!!!! I love our group and our leader! It’s so helpful to hear everyone’s story’s and share our lives knowing we care so much for these ladies we have never physically met."

"The curriculum creates so much awareness about what I am going through and brings so much guidance as I go through the process. I thank God for people who dedicate their lives to helping us find our way in the maze so difficult to untangle. God bless the Team! May your tribe increase!"

"I thought it was a great way to start the program. It eased us into sharing part of our story with others instead of jumping right into the more difficult stuff in lesson 2. I appreciated that a lot as most of us are scared or feel intimidated to share our story with others. I already love my group after just a few days and one phone call!"

"I now have a better understanding of the psychology behind my husband's betrayal. For the first time, I get that it had nothing to do with me or faults in me. I struggled with feeling insecure for so long. I'm 18+ months out and I finally feel a weight lifted as I understand more and more."

"My husband is also in a recovery group with AR. We are on the same page, but not necessarily in the same place. I’m so thankful for AR. I don’t know where we would be without it. Thanks, you guys, for the sacrifices you make to help others recover. I’m expecting great things in our marriage."

"Very intense and very emotional week, but definitely took one GIANT step forward with this exercise. If you’re willing to change and work hard on your marriage, this week can be life changing. It was for us. Grateful for affair recovery and we both agree we would highly recommend it to any couple. Thank you for helping to change my ambivalence."

"Very intense and very emotional week, but definitely took one GIANT step forward with this exercise. If you’re willing to change and work hard on your marriage, this week can be life changing. It was for us. Grateful for affair recovery and we both agree we would highly recommend it to any couple. Thank you for helping to change my ambivalence. "

"Having spent THOUSANDS on clinical psychologists over a 46 year period...FINALLY I am in the right conduit for exactly what I have needed."

"The curriculum this week was great, by far better than anything I’ve seen through counseling. Our group leader is wonderful."

"The curriculum for week 1 provided a lot of insight for me in this situation. It gave me a more positive outlook in overcoming the issues that my marriage face. In my view the group leader did an excellent job in facilitating the involvement of all participants in the group. She also exerted effort to try to relate to each person during the session. "

"The group leader is always a wealth of wisdom for all of us! This weeks material was eye opening with a twist of helping me get free from old school women stuff! The video was a precious gift from God. When Rick talked about how we were made as women, WOW! I have seen myself and all women in a different light! When he apologized for all men, I was able to let go of the anger and pain that has been a part of me for way too long! Thank you Rick!"

"I had a lot of anxiety going into this first session, so I really appreciated the calm, deliberate pace and establishment of a clear structure and expectations. I started with an anxiety level of 7 and ended more at a 3. I'll look forward to less formal, more substantive sessions in coming weeks, but this was just what I needed in a first session. Thank you!"

"Each week you learn something new and things are put in perspective. Healing is happening"

"I expected the call to be awkward, possibly having issues with people taking over each other; however, the call was so smooth! We each had sufficient time to share and I appreciated how our leader provided comments back and gave us hope that our concerns would be addressed throughout this program. I’m really looking forward to the next 13-weeks - even more so after this call. I can tell the leader has experience that will help this be even more successful. Thank you!"

"The last week's curriculum did a great job tying the last 12 weeks together. My husband was ambivalent and admits now that he was going to leave our marriage for his AP. Affair recovery saved my marriage and it all started with the free boot camp. Amazing curriculum, amazing program. Thank you from the bottom of my heart."

"I loved this week's curriculum and discussion. It was very eye opening and beyond helpful. I wish I would have had that type of information early in marriage or when working through troubles over time. I even told our group that all week I thought about how Rick and the team should create another site/course for marriage before affair. Such as for those planning to get married, newlyweds and just anyone working through difficult times in marriage. I would recommend it to everyone I know! My husband and I had done a course through the Gottman institute a few years ago pre infidelity but it never really stuck with us but this made an impact and spoke to us both. And the format of the EMSO is so helpful and helps start habits and stick with it too! Thank you for this special week!"

"I look forward to my group calls each and every week! Thank you for such an awesome experience of love and support at such a difficult time in life! "

"I really like the options that are given in each chapter to let us know we may not be at that point yet. It gives us the grace to know that it is ok and the knowledge on how to go through it when we each get there. It is giving us tools for the present and future. Thank you for this wonderful program. It has both influenced my life and well being, along with the restitution process of my marriage. I will be forever great full!"

"This [Week 6] exercise was really powerful. I’ve told my husband so many times that if he could feel how I felt, he would be a lot more sensitive. I’m realizing now that if I could feel how he’s feeling when he is expressing regret and disappointment in himself related to his cheating, that would help me really believe him and move forward. I feel like this exercise helped us in trying to understand the other’s heart."

"It was such a blessing to share with our group leader this evening. Her vulnerability in sharing her story was inspiring and she brought so much insight to our topic this week of Brokenness. I’m going to have to sit with the content of this lesson for a lot longer than a week. There is just a lot to unpack in myself, but it was very straightforward. Seeing the pride vs. brokenness quiz in black and white was truly eye opening for me."

"Going through the EMS Online course was so integral to jump starting our healing journey. It provided tools that have helped us communicate better and develop more empathy for one another. This is the 1st time my husband finally gets the trauma betrayal causes. Our leaders were wonderful, gracious, and encouraging throughout the entire course. Thank you for giving back and helping others "

"The group of women in our call are all so helpful in sharing and discussing our current situations. This has been a lifesaver for me as I so often feel alone in this process."

"Real men - real problems - real solutions - and a hope for a life Worth Living."

"I have just completed EMS Online with my husband. Before undertaking the 13 week course of late-night calls (European time!) we were suffering so badly from the trauma of my affair that I was sure our marriage would inevitably collapse. There was constant anger and flooding and we were totally rudderless. The course has had an immense impact: I have learned a lot about why I acted out and that is very important to me. My husband has gotten a serious grip on his anger and as a result we are able to communicate reasonably and in a productive and loving way that leads us to believe we can eventually make it out of this mire. There were two other unfaithful women in our particular small group which was a happy surprise as I was worried about being the only unfaithful woman in the group. We are not religious people but we have been able to participate fully in EMS Online and enjoy the fruits of the group dynamic. In our situation it has been crucial to have the support of the group and this is ongoing. During my EMS Online experience I learned the small but beautiful art of 'Hearfelt Listening' which was a revelation to me and has helped soothe my husband to no end. I couldn't recommend this course more. It offers and delivers hope, support and a road-map to recovery. It's an immense feeling to know you are not alone."

"I have been with Affair Recovery for over a year. After much searching online, I was giving up hope of finding a place that suited my needs as a betrayed husband. Married for 28 years but separated at the moment as my wife still shows no empathy nor has she recommitted to the marriage. She is still in an affair and discovery was almost three years ago. I finally signed up for Harboring Hope after listening to Rick and Samuel's many videos. I was nervous about spending money on Harboring Hope, especially after going to a couple of counselors that just made things worse. I was personally struggling with isolation and desperately trying to find which way was up and needed guidance with my thought process. Harboring Hope brought so much clarity! Hearing the stories of the guys in my group brought a sense of relief. They were part of my journey and our Group Leader was a regular guy that has experienced infidelity. They know what it feels like! I can say that I finally feel like I'm starting to heal even without help from my wife. I have a ways to go yet but Harboring Hope and the resources Affair Recovery provide are the best I know of or have found. Rick, Samuel, Leslie, John and my Group Leader from my Harboring Hope class . . . Thank you!!! God Bless you! One more thing. I know a couple of guys who have taken Harboring Hope more than once, and I now know why."

"When I found AR and Hope for Healing I was at rock bottom. I had blown up my marriage and had relapsed after an episode of infidelity previously. I needed help. Hope for Healing was a safe place where I didn't have to pretend to be "normal". I could be my flawed self. In those first few weeks, I sat in my misery and my group sat with me without complaint and with support. Ours was an interesting group in terms of both age group as well as stage of our relationships. I can say without a doubt that without Hope for Healing, I could not have made the shift I wanted in myself that has brought about the work of reconciliation in our marriage. I am thankful each day for the work that the group leaders put in to support people like me so that we can find our "true" selves and the path to a better, clearer, more authentic life. I thank Hope for Healing and Affair Recovery from the bottom of my heart for all they have done and am certain God put them in my path to save me. It is my sincere hope that others may find the same salvation I have found through this course."

"We embark on this journey we did not ask to take clueless as to how to recover. I found Harboring Hope to be a beacon in the darkness allowing me to begin my recovery journey in a healthy manner. "

"I found the videos and curriculum to be very helpful in dealing with the many facets of healing from my spouse’s infidelity, and the group calls were such a great place of venting, learning, encouragement, and support. I’m very thankful I could take this course."

"It was wonderful to be around other betrayed spouses who made me feel normal and didn't judge me, but only supported me. It was so helpful!"

"I cannot express how thankful I am that I enrolled in Harboring Hope. I had been looking at it for a while and the cost deterred me, but this course is truly priceless. I feel more hopeful for the future and closer to God than I can express. The workbook and instructors were so helpful, knowledgeable and it was all easy to read and listen to. The small group calls were one of the biggest blessings. Sharing my story and knowing I was in a safe space to be heard and have women know what I was going through meant the world to me. I'm going to miss this course and plan on re-reading it as soon as I'm done!"

"Harboring Hope gave me the opportunity to bond with other betrayed women so I wouldn’t feel so isolated or alone. Typically, infidelity is a taboo topic of conversation, but Harboring Hope provided a safe environment in which to share our respective experiences. The course, as well as my faith, helped me to believe that in the long run I will be fine, regardless of the outcome of my marriage."

"Alone... guilt-ridden.... full of shame, and a sense of hopelessness. These feelings to name a few were swirling in a great turmoil within me following D-day. How do I move forward? So many questions unanswered but the sense of isolation was perhaps the hardest to deal with outside of the pain I had brought upon my wife and myself. This course has taken me out of those dark and isolated places. It has been a great sense of peace and comfort to have this community of men to walk this journey with. "

"I was very worried about signing up for EMSO. I knew we needed help, but I'm such a private person I could not imagine talking about his affair to strangers. It was such a relief to find it so helpful, so supportive, both to me as the betrayed but also to the unfaithful spouse. I have finished the course feeling so much better about myself and my marriage. "

"I was initially skeptical of this course but even before registration found AR to be quickly responsive and positive to questions and problems quickly solved via email. From delivery of the course materials to the end of the course AR are always helpful and there for you. The course content is hard as stated in the literature but from the first call I was won over by the openness and honesty of everyone within our small group, particularly our mentors. It was a relief to be able to talk to others, without fear, who are in the same situation and can help and empathize. A great support system to have on my journey to a better life and marriage. I just wish I'd known what I know now before my infidelity. (It probably would not have happened but we, unfortunately, can not change our past) Can't recommend AR strongly enough!!"

"It was absolutely amazing the way we able to have non escalated conversations about what happened, what lead up to the affair happening and what we could do to recover from it. Our marriage would not have made it without this course. We are so thankful for the material, the homework (even the tough weeks and conversations) the videos and Q&A to know that we're not crazy for the way this has affected us. Thanks again for the Hope of our marriage not just surviving but thriving."

"This program turned my outlook from very, very little hope to great hope for a better future together. It provided the tools needed to move me forward from my "stuck" position. This is better than weekend to remember, although that helps a marriage, this addresses our issue in the length and way I so desperately needed, being the betrayed in the relationship. Hopeful again!"

"After getting caught in one affair, I was still holding back and trying to protect my image. Hope for Healing convinced me I had to become broken and tell all. My wife and I have been slowly working towards recovery and I owe whatever success I have had to God and this program. I cant say enough about how much Affair Recovery has helped me and us. I completed Hope for Healing and volunteered to be a mentor during another class. I want to stay connected. My wife and I hope to do the EMS weekend soon. Thanks to Rick and his organization!"

"At the beginning I thought this was all hogwash, but after about 4 weeks I realized most of the information we were going over I could actually relate to and felt the course was written for me..."

""I was able to look at my issues that made me choose infidelity clearly for the first time, and I was able to work with a group of people who were understanding and non-judgmental.""

"It was a game changer in my healing from betrayal to finally have a group of people comfortable with my pain and the amount of time it takes to heal. I couldn't work on the big picture when just day to day I felt abandoned, judged and afraid. It was an isolating process until I joined Harboring Hope."

"The Week 6 curriculum is very emotional. It's intense but a major breakthrough in my recovery. Hearing my husband's assignment was like removing every thorn in my heart."

"The EMSO was a life saver! Just to know I wasn't alone and my feelings and emotions were "normal" was so helpful. I don't think my marriage has a chance without this course. I would recommend this course for anyone facing infidelity! It's a life like and a ray of hope."

"Being in a group that understands and empathizes with the challenges of infidelity was a blessing. I needed people I could talk to without a filter and without tiptoeing through the recovery discussions with my wife. HH and my group was a life line for me."

"Great videos, great material, challenging assignments, and frank conversations. Everyone who gets married should have to do a course like this prior to and periodically during marriage, even without infidelity, to help keep them on track personally and relationally."

"...We are learning and applying so much of what we are learning in this course. It's amazing... I have talked about it a lot with my therapist and she too has been amazed. I'm so very glad that God led me to your organization and the people in our group!! Thank you for doing what you do!!"

"As the [betrayed] Spouse-- the curriculum is " spot on". The conference calls has made me see and feel that all my feelings, thoughts , emotions, etc are validated and normal--- with the nightmare of infidelity. And--- finally after months and months --- my spouse is finally " getting it". I truly have hope now."

"Harboring Hope was a life saver for me. I looked forward to the readings and small group chats every week. Although our group was on a first name basis, I feel like I know have a group of ladies who have become apart of one another's lives."

"I was told this was a transformative weekend. I have to say that I wholeheartedly agree! Thanks."

"I can'tell imagine how I would have gotten through my recovery without this course. I have gained insight, healing, and freedom. The curriculum was phenomenal! "

"I thought that because the initial betrayal took place years ago, and even though I found out the truth only one year ago, that I should just ''get over it''. The feelings and emotions I was experiencing every moment, was destructive to me and my family. Harboring Hope brought me to a place of realization and help, that I NEVER thought I could be at. Thank you so much. This was a life saver for myself and my marriage."

"Hope for healing breaks you down and builds you back up in 17 weeks. The hopelessness at the beginning of the class was replaced with tools, recovery direction and hope for the future. I got to find out who I really am and what I can be. "

"It was a great way to share with others who are struggling to understand their feelings, pride, and shame. We were able to be open without criticism. I feel like a new man and in a happier place after Hope for Healing."

"Awesome overall - there is so little help and real guidance out there for people in our situations. This program has been amazing - giving clear direction, addressing real issues and the wealth of experience and mentoring from people who have been there themselves makes it absolutely invaluable. Putting us in touch with people in the same situation, where we can hear others speak our truths validates our feelings and helps us make sense of what is happening. This program rescued me from a deep dark pit and got me moving forward, where 18 [months] of counselling had failed in every respect. Thank you thank you than kyou - you are life savers - keep doing what you do."

"Just days before EMS Weekend, I asked my [betrayed] wife to get a refund. Now, [Sunday] I wish it was Friday again, and I had this same weekend to relive. As painful as some of it is, the experience is something I never would have wanted to miss. "

"We are in the Netherlands... just finished EMS Online with calls early in the morning. It is killing at times... but for us: it was all more than worth the trouble.... I had a hard time sleeping anyway, waking up early and sometimes being awake for hrs. A conference call with good people in the same boat [was] great. And I never slept better than after the calls.... Get Skype to work on your device, it is easy, worked best for us on the iPad. Really, I highly recommend it as you gain so much from it..."

"I cannot believe how far I have come since EMS weekend just a couple of months ago. At that time, I could not even envision where we are now. Looking to a future of "better than". Thank you."

"I cannot say enough about what this course has meant to my husband and me and the impact it has had. We are using the techniques daily; especially the Pyramid of Truth and L.I.F.E. I came looking for a way to save my marriage and sanity and I found a new way to live, choosing life, not death. Getting to ground zero was a big challenge for us. My husband had many secrets and a great deal of shame around them, things he had never told anyone. I was so discouraged at the time of our last D-Day to get a bunch of new information. I revisited Rick's words about viewing this as progress and wrote our Group Leader for advise as to whether or not we should separate at that point. She reminded me that it is progress and told me to do what God is telling me to do. That was the best advise I could have gotten. God was and is calling me to stay, fight for redemption and heal. My husband is working so hard to heal and rebuild and I know that is a blessing that not everyone has. Surely God's Grace is delivered through Affair Recovery and the Saints who work there. Thank you and I look forward to Harboring Hope and Married for life along with our private counseling and the extraordinary life to come. Our Group Leader did an amazing job as our mentor. She always seemed to know just what to say and met everyone where they were. Her hope and faith is contagious. I am so glad God sent her to us or us to her. Either way it is pure Grace."

"The chapters in the EMS Online workbook are spot on. I have obtained valuable new tools to better deal with my life. This has been an amazing course and I honestly look forward to our group meetings each week."

"Well before this course i had no direction nor a real way to get my husband to cooperate, but this course provided so much insight."

"Very impressed with our Group Leader. He always encourages us to add our thoughts, to be comfortable sharing, and to use our Small Group Wall more. The EMS Online curriculum has definitely been on target with addressing issues that haven't been addressed as directly in previous counseling type settings we've experienced."

"The Affair Recovery website has become a touchstone for me since the revelation of my husband's affair 14 months ago. After nearly a year of suffering in isolation (having chosen not to reveal his affair to our family and friends) I joined Harboring Hope, and it has been truly life changing. Not only are the materials important, but the group itself is a tremendous help. Reading the book, taking the time to think through answers to the questions, really allowed me to process each step of recovery -- the disclosure of information, the depth of betrayal, the steps to take in healing. It is absolutely essential for a betrayed spouse to take the time for PERSONAL HEALING, rather than just focusing on healing the marriage. And having a group of women to talk to felt like a tremendous weight off of my shoulders. Each of circumstances was different, and yet we were all in the same boat together. I have found it very easy to blame myself for my husband's affair. And yet, when one of the women in my group did this, I leapt to her defense. When I realized this -- it isn't her fault that her husband had an affair, so why am I blaming myself for mine? -- it was eye opening. There were women who are navigating through this alone, with their husbands, and in a state of uncertainty. Yet all of us provided support to one another. I have made friends for life through this course."

"This is a wonderful program. It has given us insights that have helped us move forward and understand what to do and how to do it better. Even if we don't make it (I hope to) we will be able to move on individually in a much healthier way."

"I thought I was going crazy, a complete failure, and everyone around me was in a healthy place. It was good to know that none of this was true. E - California"

"Without community and support, getting through infidelity is impossible. I am so grateful that I found AR as it literally saved our marriage. Finding others that have experienced the same thing creates a safe environment and allows for true healing to begin. It was worth each and every penny. Hands down."

"I was very nervous to get started with the first group call, however, within just a few minutes of listening to our Group Leader, she made me feel comfortable! Our Leader has a wonderful heart and we were able to hear it in her voice during each weekly call. We could feel how she cared for us and what we were going through during our highs and lows of this 13 week course. Excellent group leader!"

"This curriculum was so helpful for us to begin this recovery process. Rick has been an amazing communicator and we also gleaned a lot of great information from the weekly videos of the mentors. We will be forever grateful!"

"Infidelity is a painful and confusing bump in the road of life, and even worse, you can't talk to friends or family for support! You find yourself surfing the Internet or reading books full of generalities. Your therapist just wants to talk about your mother. In contrast, EMS Online gives you professional guidance and a support group of other couples in crisis. Whatever you decide to do about your marriage, you will have a healthier future if you complete one of the programs from Affair Recovery. If you're not spiritual, replace the word "God" with "hope" to get the most from this wonderful program. "

"EMSO helped me to realize this isn't something to just forget and move on from. I realized it is okay to talk about the affair and walk through the pain with others like us."

"For the first time in my life, the Hope for Healing course has allowed for me to truly look at myself as a person and to realize I have faults like others."

"I can't imagine my husband and I recovering from my infidelity without Hope for Healing. This course taught me to look at myself and what I'd done with rigorous honesty and to understand and love my wounded husband the way he needs me to. It is absolutely true that this course and my hard work have helped me turn the worst thing that ever happened into a very good thing. I feel centered, calm, hopeful, and in love with my husband now after the course. I know that we can work through anything together, and I'm confident we will be married for life."

"I'm so thankful for this course. It helped my spouse and I methodically work through the recovery process and gave us practical steps to continue moving forward. We were stuck at a place in recovery and this provided a big leap forwarded. I have more hope that we can make it through this now. Thanks to everyone at AR! "

"I entered the program feeling desperate and confused about my future with my spouse. The program was well designed and well run and we got so much out of it. "

"Over the past 14 months, I have tackled this painful journey completely on my own. The only person I have spoken to was my husband. HH took me out of my isolation and let me tell my story. It also made me aware that others have a much tougher road than I do."

"Thank you to all and to those in this organization who are caring!! To make the wheels turn and to make the whole picture of the pain and anguish real is amazing. I am thankful for all you have taught me....given me and blessed me with. May God bless you...whoever is reading this. May you know that you have touched and reached another broken home, because of what you do. Blessings""

"If you have any questions about Harboring Hope, know that it was absolutely necessary to my personal recovery. There is no roadmap when your world is shattered by infidelity, but Harboring Hope connects you with a community of men that truly understand the pain, confusion, and all-consuming effect that your spouse's choices have had on your life. I thought I was alone, and didn't know how to move forward - Harboring Hope helped me find other men that provided support while walking through content created specifically for our situation. "

"Sharing the surface of this is hard enough, but sharing the deeper struggles, insecurities, and fears would have been impossible for me. But a group of anonymous women in the same boat as I was, learning and digging deep together, was the safety and acceptance I needed to open up. Speaking aloud the pain, struggle, or even temptation and getting it out into the light took so much of it's power away."

"It is a huge help to have a plan of action to conquer this pain, and to have a list of things that are detrimental to the healing process."

"Thank you so much for your wonderful leading and incredible curriculum. Painful at times but necessary for true healing. Thank you for using God's word as the plumb line for your material. Refreshing in today's "economy" of what to do in these situations. May God bless you abundantly. Everyone at Affair Recovey. Thank you. :)"

"I do not know what I would have done had I not found HH. It was an answer to my prayers after my discovery. I not only found a group of ladies that could relate to what I was going through, I found 5 wonderful new sisters that laughed, cried, and prayed with me. I was very blessed with the group I was put into. We have exchanged personal info to be able to be there for each other any time we need. Finding people who could relate to how I was felling made me feel like I wasn't alone in this nightmare I found myself in. It was truly a Godsend."

"There are no words to adequately express what the Harboring Hope course and the level of healing it has brought has meant to me. As a hurt spouse who has endured multiple affairs before finding Affair Recovery and Harboring Hope, I can honestly say I am in a place of strength, healing, and insight I never thought possible. The band of sisters I have gained through my group members will be lifelong friends as we bonded "in the foxhole" of our own shared pain and healing. Our group leader was a source of grace and hope, as the focus was taken off of "saving the marriage" and onto letting God heal and save us as hurt women. As a result, I believe my marriage has great hope. My children have a healthier, stronger mother and role model, and my shield of faith has grown five sizes! The fiery darts will always come, but Harboring Hope and Affair Recovery have given me tools for healing, weapons for defense, and prayer-warrior friends I will have the rest of my life. To put succinctly, this course helped me clothe myself with strength and dignity, so I am truly able to smile at the future (Proverbs 31:25). To feel dignity again and strength to face the future are the two greatest gifts I could have been given in the midst of such desperate and dark hours. It has changed my life and therefore, my children's lives as well. How can I thank you enough? "

"It was great to share with other people that knew and understood what I was going through and where I was in the journey. Having a group of women you know aren't judging you because they've been there too was reassuring and made opening up that much easier. The insights you take away from them, the amount of material that makes you think, and the revelations you have about yourself and your nature make Hope for Healing a wonderful, positive, and encouraging journey. "

"This course helped me process pain effectively and used that pain for good, transforming me and channeling it into love for others. The course also gave me a new perspective that puts hope in even the bleakest of moments and makes me aware of my purpose for living.""

"Without our small group, our marriage may have turned out differently. We're grateful for one another and know that our group feels the same about our presence."

"We couldn't find anything like EMS Online around us, with people who understand, who wouldn't judge and would walk through the dark places with us. It has brought healing, hope, and a future to my marriage"

"I think the real key to being able to move forward is learning the right lessons in a non judgemental envvironment. EMS Online shattered alot of preconceived ideas and laid the groundwork for a stronger marriage going forward. "

"EMS Online provided us with a safe environment to discuss a deeply personal hurt. It also gave us a road map on how to start a journey of healing for our marriage. "

"We appreciated greatly the communication with others who wanted to save their marriages instead of turning straight to divorce."

"I was very apprehensive about an online recovery course, but the facilitator and the other couples gave us the courage to stand in the gap and look at situations through each others' eyes.We have hope for a future together! "

"We tried self-help books and MFTs but this is the first program we did together and actually completed. Absolutely worth it! "

"Having somebody understand EXACTLY what you are going through makes going through this course worth every penny. Also, having to face the issues that need to be addressed in order to heal WITH your spouse makes all the difference in the world. It was awesome and healing to have my husband "get" the pain I was going through AND for me to understand his too."

"Before finding Affair Recovery, we had seen a few very good counselors. But I still felt lost... like I was so in need of some more specific guidance... something concrete to help us through this confusing & painful situation. Affair Recovery was it! How thankful I am that we found this program. It was a God-send. Things are still hard, but at least we now have some tools to help us work on healing in our marriage"

"I learned so much more about the workings of infidelity for both the betrayer and betrayed through the workbook. I looked forward to our weekly phone calls; it brought comfort during one of the most unsettling times of my life."

"After having struggled in silence with infidelity and heartbreak I was relieved to find Affair Recovery and Harboring Hope. It has helped me a lot to share my pain with other women and start me on the right track towards personal healing."

"The combination of the course material and the small group discussion was fabulous. I am confident that I have explored every aspect of recovery and have a strong foundation to continue working on my own. And the group discussions provided a safe forum to delve deeper into my feelings and to get new perspective that I would not have discovered if I was working on this by myself."

"I just wanted to thank you. I have been participating in the Harboring Hope program and it has truly been such a blessing to me. I feel renewed and hopeful and am loving the support of the other women who understand. "

"EMSO gave me a safe place where I could talk about my past without shame, and being with others who wanted to fight for their marriages gave me the guts to tell "all". That gave me courage to say what I felt I needed to say in order to help others in the same boat! It wasn't just words; you bonded with the others in this "fight" against the forces that be that wanted to destroy our lives. "

"I wasn’t really sure what to expect. I was very anxious. In preparation for coming, I read lots of testimonials online ad was very encouraged. I experienced love, acceptance, empathy, and a very safe place to share. I’m feeling that this weekend has laid a great foundation for our future. I’m encouraged! "

"I was expecting to see both of us torn down/devastated, but I was pleased to see both of us treated with grace/respect. I was challenged and pushed to the limit I needed to be pushed, but I understand and benefited because it was done it the Spirit of making me better in addition to benefiting our marriage. I feel better about our marriage today than I have in at least a year and a half."

"I was expecting it to feel like a counseling session but instead it turned out to be a great way to surface, discuss, and understand some very difficult topics. I am feeling strong and optimistic about our marriage and our future together. "

"Really appreciated how they tied together psychology, bio chemistry, and spiritual sides of the affair, the hurt, and the healing"

"I was expecting to get a boost. I wanted to really face my emotions and process his pain, which I have been able to do. I know we had gotten to a better place in our marriage because we were both willing to come, but I know we needed something that allowed us to move forward. I experienced enlightenment and I found hope. I feel we are going to make it. I think it was helpful to normalize a lot of marriage issues that I thought were specific to us but are very much universal. If everyone is dealing with a lot of the same struggles, it is easier to stay and work on it, otherwise I would leave and find myself in the same predicament again. "

"We talked to a few people who are alumni of EMS so we had an idea of what to expect. I expected an intense weekend where we would get the tools to help through the pain. I experienced a place of safety and healing. There were people who were understanding and here to help us. It was an unbelievably safe environment where I was free to be me and around people who got it. The counselors were willing to take their time and talk through everyone’s pain, hurt, and discouragement. I have a great hope for our marriage and the future of our family. I know this had nothing to do with me or our marriage. "

"EMS was work. Well worth it work. I was expecting to not enjoy my time or get anything out of the weekend, am glad to say I was very wrong. I experienced a new way to look at my marriage, my mate, my life, and myself. I am feeling better about my marriage than when we were first married. God works in mysterious ways. "

"I did not have any expectations or knowledge, so my anxiety was pretty high coming here. Once I got inside the doors I immediately felt calmer and safe. It’s been a constant safe haven and I got way more toward believing in hope for our marriage, which I was not expecting. I now have hope when I was very unsure before. The exercises were all great- I’m so glad we came. Thank you! "

"I was expecting a weekend that would provide healing for my husband. I experienced healing for myself. I definitely found some moments of epiphany. "

"Before EMS I had no expectations that I would be able to relax at all. However, after sharing on Friday my story with my small group I knew that I would be heard and understood. I experienced compassion and love and no judgment. Rick brought so much insight and wisdom and made me feel normal. I honestly still don’t know where my marriage is going to go at this point, but I have committed to working on me. "

"I really connected with my spouse while in the small group. It was a time to listen to other couples (with the therapist's guidance during discussions) and myself and my husband felt (for whatever reason) more of a heart (God) connection when in community with them. We are hopeful and commit to staying together at this time. We commit to leaving our old relationship in the past."

"I didn’t really know what to expect when we came. I experienced truth, love, acceptance, honesty, experience, anxiety, peace. I am feeling hopeful about my marriage for the first time in over two years. I am looking forward to the growth in both of us that this program has kick-started. Thank you!"

"I didn’t arrive with expectations, just a little hope and a lot of anxiety. I found a group of caring, safe people looking for the same thing I was. I can’t say it was easy but it was definitely worth it! "

"EMS gave me an opportunity to hear what my spouse wanted me to hear. I wouldn’t have bothered otherwise."

"I’m not sure what I was expecting. I did not guess that it would be so intimate, so freeing, so open, that we would experience so much of the other couples’ journeys. I feel optimistic about our future. Thank you for all your love, support, and for putting this together. Thank you Rick for helping me break through other issues. "

"I found it to be a safe, loving, helpful environment and experience. I think we were both able to make a permanent decision to be committed to our marriage. "

"Did not know what to expect. Was a great experience. Exceeded my expectations. Offered so many tools to help start a new beginning together. A real chance to heal. Thank you, EMS."

"I received everything I was expecting plus more. I was able to leave the 10 pound weight from my gut (hurt/pain/anger) and I feel relief, something I have not felt in 4+ years! I can’t thank everyone involved with AR who I’ve learned from enough! I can and will move forward in a positive, healthy way. I am choosing my husband to love and start a fresh new journey together. "

"I was NOT wanting to come to this but am very glad that I did. It had helped my heart to open to possibilities of reconciliation. This was the best investment I could have ever made in working through my spouses infidelity. "

"This week's curriculum was awesome. Very helpful. This program and every one involved in it is such a blessing. All the hard work and dedication really show from everyone on the staff. I can't thank you guys enough."

"The thing about Harboring Hope that was so positive was that I got better by doing the work and following suggestions. As a byproduct my husband got better as well."