As past participants, we want our walks through infidelity to bring hope, inspiration, and courage to your own journey.
, 10 months 16 hours ago

Samuel discusses tools to help the unfaithful and betrayed spouse heal despite fear of uncertainty.

, 10 months 1 week ago

Samuel shares a common mistake he would often make with Samantha that kept them stuck.

, 10 months 1 week ago
affair recovery-survivors blog-elizabeth-love yourself as you would love others




These are words that I have had to unlearn and relearn—words that I thought I knew, but now realize I misunderstood for most of my life. Now, they actually mean something to me.

Growing up, I would attend church with my mom and siblings. I had just enough of a smattering of church "sayings" and knowledge about the Bible to become familiar with them. But honestly, there was far more I did not understand than what I did understand....

, 10 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel shares tips on battling depression after disclosure of infidelity or addiction.

, 10 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel interviews Rob about his life before, during, and after his wife's infidelity.

, 10 months 2 weeks ago
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Before what we in the infidelity community call "D-day," my life was full—full of gratitude, challenges, and mostly good. My life was nowhere near perfect—punctuated with the losses one experiences when we are lucky enough to live long enough. I had lived a largely intact existence blessed with friends, a beautiful place to call home, and good food on my table.

As a function of my positive, benefit-of-the-doubt...

, 10 months 2 weeks ago

This is a question that almost all of us have asked or heard at some point during recovery from infidelity. It might have been screamed in anger, or muttered in a barely audible cry of exasperation. And it is a question we often hear over and over again, "How could you?" It is a good question, and it lies at the heart and sum of all of the pain created when people like me have affairs. It is as if we look to the heavens and we cry out in our pain, a guttural "why?"

, 10 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel interviews Melanie, an unfaithful female spouse, about her journey of unfaithfulness and restoration.

, 10 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel discusses doing hard things in repair work.

, 10 months 3 weeks ago
affair recovery-survivors blog-elizabeth-the biggest stumbling block to my own forgiveness has been pride

To forgive somebody is to say one way or another "You have done something unspeakable, and by all rights I should call it quits between us. Both my pride and my principles demand no less. However, although I make no guarantees that I will be able to forget what you have done, and though we will both carry the scars for life, I refuse to let it stand between us. One day, I...

, 10 months 4 weeks ago

Samuel shares thoughts on why we would rather run from our pain than heal from it.

, 11 months 16 hours ago

Samuel shares pointed thoughts on rediscovering ourselves after infidelity.

, 11 months 1 week ago

Samuel discusses personal battles we all face in recovery.

, 11 months 1 week ago

Samuel shares a humorous but life changing principle of communication post infidelity.

, 11 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel tackles a touchy subject: helping the unfaithful spouse forgive.

, 11 months 2 weeks ago
originally posted on thatericalper.com by unnamed source

Today I am sharing with you something that someone sent to me after my dad died years ago. I have never forgotten it, and I share it with you today for encouragement wherever you are within the waves and wreckage of infidelity.

(This was originally posted on the website thatericalper.com by someone unnamed)


, 11 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel shares a personal story of significant healing.

, 11 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel discusses the need for the unfaithful spouse to have a team around them.

, 11 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel discusses the journey of the unfaithful spouse and compassion.

, 11 months 4 weeks ago

Samuel shares truths he's learned on how he forgave himself and chose to find healing.

, 12 months 3 days ago

Samuel interviews Tullian Tchividjian about his personal journey before, during, and after infidelity.

, 1 year 15 hours ago

Samuel shares insight he and Samantha have used to heal both their hearts.

, 1 year 5 days ago

Samuel shares a tool he used and still uses in healing from his own infidelity.

, 1 year 1 week ago

Samuel shares essential and necessary principles of safety for the unfaithful.

, 1 year 1 week ago

Samuel shares do's and don'ts to potentially win back the betrayed spouse.

, 1 year 2 weeks ago

Samuel discusses the journey couples go through when trying to heal from infidelity or addiction.

, 1 year 3 weeks ago

Samuel discusses how every unfaithful spouse has a self destruct button and how to avoid it.

, 1 year 3 weeks ago
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I stink at being alone. I have never been alone; not even my time in my mother's womb was in solitude—I am a twin. I have always shared birthdays, rooms, busses, spotlights, cookies, bathrooms, etc.

When I first arrived at college, I remember sitting in my new dorm room by myself. My soon-to-be roommate would never show. Apparently she got cold feet and withdrew from the university. I remember for the first time in my life having a very primal...

, 1 year 3 weeks ago

Samuel shares insight into why we find ourselves alone as unfaithful spouses.

, 1 year 4 weeks ago

Samuel shares six gifts we can give ourselves to help heal from infidelity.