My husband and I have been married 9 years, with discover one year out and the trickle truth happening I am still slowly finding out information from his 3 emotional affairs while we have been married and one sexual affair that happened before we were married. In my opinion he has done hardly any recovery work and I am getting hurt over and over. I recently had a conversation with my pastor who has said that maybe my husband does not have the emotional capacity to handle this recovery. Can that be true? Can he really not have the ability to handle the recovery process? Good grief! Where does that leave me? What do I do to show my husband he has go to take some actions? I am getting beyond myself. Thank you so much!!