Discovery for me was 13 months ago and I’m still just so confused. My husband said extremely romantic and loving words to his AP that he never ever said to me, and called her very endearing names. He told me daily, “I love you”, and he called me dear but that’s it. He commented on her Facebook pictures saying, “How stunning”, “Oh my how beautiful”, “Simply gorgeous”. The biggest compliment I ever received from him is “You look nice dear”. At the time of his affair we’d been married 29 years. He ended his affair on D-Day and now I get all of that romantic stuff, but never before. I need to know why her, never me? He doesn’t know. I need to know why he got involved with another woman, this man of mine that never even flirted with other women. He doesn’t know. How can I go on when he has no clue why he was a harlequin romance with her, but never was with me? Why did she bring it out in him, why was I not deserving? I’m a very affectionate person, but I loved him and accepted that he wasn’t that way. I was cheated on for years and he gave this to her immediately. He said it was only via emails & texts; Love was never spoken between them when they were together. I don’t believe this. I must know why & I don’t believe him when he says he doesn’t know. Am I wrong? Is it possible he doesn’t know?