I’ve been put in the friend zone by my wife. We are 5 months post D-day and have done EMS weekend and are still in follow up from that. We have come a long way since discovery but she still treats me like a close friend or sibling instead of a spouse. This is a problem that predated the affair and I’m concerned that it can’t be changed. She had so much more of a passionate relationship with her affair partner so I know she is capable and it is hurtful she can’t desire me in that way. At this point it will eventually be a deal breaker for me if we can’t get to a place of more than friends.