Recently Samuel shared about ambivalence. That's where I am now. I'm 6 months from discovery of my husband's sex addiction. He was engrossed in porn, web cams, sexting, an emotional affair, and was with several prostitutes. How long do couples, or more specifically the betrayed of the sex addict, stay in a state of ambivalence? I've heard healing takes around 18 to 24 months and sometimes 3 to 5 years but what percent of that time is stuck in ambivalence usually?