I had a pastor that talked about this and gave me a better understanding. While forgiveness is a verb, an action that you do, it's not something you can see. It's not like picking a chair up and moving it from one place to another and you know you have done it. We can want to forgive and then find there is a little kingdom in our heart that hasn't surrendered. My pastor said...." When you can tell the story to someone and and the details aren't as vivid as they use to be, maybe you forgot some of them. When the anger or hurt doesn't just well back up as you tell the story. Then you have forgiven. But if not, then you know that there is still some work to do.

I had a pastor that talked about this and gave me a better understanding. While forgiveness is a verb, an action that you do, it's not something you can see. It's not like picking a chair up and moving it from one place to another and you know you have done it. We can want to forgive and then find there is a little kingdom in our heart that hasn't surrendered. My pastor said...." When you can tell the story to someone and and the details aren't as vivid as they use to be, maybe you forgot some of them. When the anger or hurt doesn't just well back up as you tell the story. Then you have forgiven. But if not, then you know that there is still some work to do.