Q&A What Would You Recommend for Spouses Who Lose Their Mate to Suicide during Recovery?

Submitted by Leslie_Hardie Fri, 09/13/2019 - 09:54

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Are there any resources you have that are specified for this kind of thing or is there any advice you can provide? I’m in harboring hope and was advised that it would be good for me to continue in the course, but I can’t even get through the material... it’s too painful and I can’t relate to any of it now.. Any advice would help.. I’m at a loss, we were doing really good and I just don’t understand what happened..

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Sending you so much love and tears - I have been so close to where you are I wouldn’t have been surprised if my husband took his life as he can’t free himself from the shame and guilt, loss of self respect and self confidence from having wronged so many people with his affair. All I want to add is drink in the truth that you weren’t ever responsible for your husband’s affair or his suicide. We have free will, and I know from a friend whose son killed himself believing the lie that it was her fault and she deserves to be punished all her life by misery, is the stumbling block to letting God in to be alongside you in your grief. The grief and the loss are yours, but walk through that valley in truth. God bless you

What happened

Submitted by [name hidden] on

Sending you so much love and tears - I have been so close to where you are I wouldn’t have been surprised if my husband took his life as he can’t free himself from the shame and guilt, loss of self respect and self confidence from having wronged so many people with his affair. All I want to add is drink in the truth that you weren’t ever responsible for your husband’s affair or his suicide. We have free will, and I know from a friend whose son killed himself believing the lie that it was her fault and she deserves to be punished all her life by misery, is the stumbling block to letting God in to be alongside you in your grief. The grief and the loss are yours, but walk through that valley in truth. God bless you

What happened

Submitted by [name hidden] on

Sending you so much love and tears - I have been so close to where you are I wouldn’t have been surprised if my husband took his life as he can’t free himself from the shame and guilt, loss of self respect and self confidence from having wronged so many people with his affair. All I want to add is drink in the truth that you weren’t ever responsible for your husband’s affair or his suicide. We have free will, and I know from a friend whose son killed himself believing the lie that it was her fault and she deserves to be punished all her life by misery, is the stumbling block to letting God in to be alongside you in your grief. The grief and the loss are yours, but walk through that valley in truth. God bless you

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