It has been 3 1/2 years since disclosure and I believe I still don't have full disclosure. My husband claims he doesn’t remember or has forgotten things that I ask him. He also still gets very defensive, has a temper and anger tantrums and accuses me of never getting over this and not letting him up. He hasn't done any recovery work for his infidelity or just for himself. He still watches porn and severely neglects me sexually and blames me saying it's because of my interaction with him. I have no voice in this marriage. Boundaries I set are always broken as if they never existed. He blames me for not being a virgin when we first met and therefore his ideal marriage situation will never be realized with me. His behaviors are still as if he is cheating on me. I guess he is if he still into porn. Yet he doesn't want a divorce! I'm 65 years old on a very small pension and I'm scared to start all over again.