Q&A Will I Ever Love and Desire My Husband Again?

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Question

Prior to finding out about my husband's affair, our sex life was very fulfilling. I found my husband physically attractive and I enjoyed the time we would spend together. Since finding out about his affair, I am not physically attracted to him. In fact, I will look at him and see him as the 50 year old, overweight man that he is. I asked my sister if my husband looks any different than three years ago and she tells me no. Because of the way I see him now, I have no interest in having sex with him unless I am absolutely desperate for an orgasm. Ironically, my husband has changed in many positive ways. In fact, he is now the man that I thought I originally married. However, because of his affairs, I can't seem to appreciate his changes. I don't feel that I love him anymore and I don't even like him at times, but he is a wonderful father and I have committed myself to my marriage and family because I have a hope that my feelings will one day change. Will I ever love and desire my husband again? I am willing to stay with my husband until my kids leave the home, but if my feelings for him don't change by then, our marriage will end.

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