We are coming up on the 1 year anniversary of my husband coming out with his 2 one night stands that he committed 10 years ago and 13 years ago. This came out only because I demanded that he do a polygraph and through the assistance from a counselor he confessed prior to the polygraph. I still have these horrible “anger thoughts” about him. I hate that I have floods of anger and curse words about husband. My husband, whom my heart wants to edify and honor. In our marriage I always edified him and let him have the dominant role in it. Will I ever have those edifying words and honor for him? Right now I definitely do not. The costs of his infidelities have been immense. Without going into too much detail, we are not just looking at the two one night stands. There is porn, a lawsuit, and livelihood at stake. I know he wants out marriage to work. However I wonder if he is too selfish to put the work into it.