My husband is stuck in the constant “you hurt me, so I’m going to hurt you back with my words” phase. He wants to belittle me and tell me what I’m saying isn’t true. That’s ridiculous. We have been in this stage of anger and rage for over a year. We have been to specialists and gone over our story. He’s not accepting and asks, “How did you lose your morals?” No matter how many times I give the same answers, the fights are awful. My triggers are the feelings of not being enough, being heard or valued. These conversations fire me up, too. He says I have no right to be angry because I did this, as if his actions and words don’t have consequences. It’s hard to be empathetic when you're constantly being torn down. I’m tired of the cycle.