Q&A Does the Wayward Spouse Have a Right to Ask the Betrayed What Source They Are Using to Find Information about the Affair?
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Question
My spouse has been asking about how I am finding information about their affair. Does refusal to share this information count as lack of transparency or intimacy in the recovery process? I attempted to share parts of how I discovered the affair and it was met with “tell all or nothing”. The affair happened at work and I told my spouse that everyone knew about it. I believe the responsibility for transparency is on him, not me, since he is the one who stepped out of the marriage.
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