I am at such a loss. My husband says that he wasn’t aware of the lack of emotional intimacy that we had, or even that you needed that in a relationship. But everything that a woman needs emotionally he was able to give to his affair partner textbook quality. How was he able to open up to her, give her the quality time, the compliments, and the non-sexual touch that a woman desires before they are sexually interested? Does that mean he just wasn’t into me or did he just magically figure out with the affair partner how you treat a woman? I am so hurt that he did none of that with me and it came out so easily for her. Am I being duped by him? I don’t believe that he just learned this.