I am trying to understand how much pornography and masturbation is contributing to a block in our recovery or if it is any of my business at all. During the two years of infidelity my husband used this behavior daily. He has in his own words masturbated daily usually twice a day since he was fully pubescent. In looking at what is left of his electronic history there are years of pornography escalating in intensity and for lack of a better term kinkier. Even while we are in EMS Online the behavior continued. Even when he was sitting in the living room reading with me I found he was actually reading erotica. He has finally agreed again to stop with the pornography but continues “taking care of himself”. Is this healthy or are my concerns valid? He doesn’t approach me for sex as he said he fears more rejection.