When told she was being abusive, my unfaithful wife laughed in my face, and stated men cannot be abused. I even researched and presented examples from Domestic Violence resources, Affair Recovery, The Gottman Institute, and others. Yet, I still continued to hear and see the same type of thinking/abuse afterwards that seems to indicate she did/does not really believe women can also abuse men by her continued words and actions. Over 80% of the same types of abuse that occurred during the affair and after continued to occur to the present.