Good question. One counselor in our past seemed good at the time. He was kind, knowledgeable, and seemed to have a good grasp on helping my spouse get PTSD treatment. However, he didn’t focus on us individually. Looking back, he didn’t help me understand that perhaps, I was the problem in the marriage. Whether you are betrayed or unfaithful, you each need to be taken care of on your own path of healing. In my case, I needed someone to look me in the eyes and help me get honest and open about who I was and what I had been doing. My wife needed support and effective training on how to work through the trauma in her life. I think couples need some individual therapy as well as couples therapy. In my opinion, look for someone who isn’t afraid to say what needs to be said or takes sides. Ask Rick regarding his knowledge of counselors in your area. He has a pretty good handle on who you should see and what you should be looking for in a counselor. Sorry for the late response. I just got this response thing working again. Take care and thanks for the question. I pray you find a good counselor and peace in your life.