I fit into the smaller category of betrayed spouses who are repulsed by the idea of sex post betrayal. I have no desire to be physically intimate and I find talking about it, seeing it on tv, thinking about it, or reading about it all to be completely revolting and it make me physically feel ill at times. I think some of this stems from the way my spouse acted out which was repulsive and horrifying to me. Also, I ended up seeing the affair partner in a photo displaying her vagina whilst my husband took the photo and having that etched into my brain. There is an overwhelming sense around all the pain and disfunction associated with unhealthy sexual activity. Do you have any suggestions to deal with this?