Q&A How Do I Recover from My Anger Resulting from an Unhealthy Recovery Process?

After the shocking discovery and months more lies, I believed we had full disclosure and a common understanding of what happened 3 months ago. I started working towards acceptance. I can feel the triggers were getting less intense. My husband hates himself. I'm the punching bag. I comfort him a lot and encourage him when he is overwhelmed by shame. I find myself constantly fearful of sharing my feelings with him because he will get rage and become verbally abusive easily. Now I find myself starting to get more and more resentful when I'm triggered. I feel even less trust towards him than earlier in the recovery. Because of the growing distrust, I start to think maybe there are more lies. I will panic when he is not home. I'm angry. All the emotion that was repressed seems to become funky. I don't see how he can help me since he is still in his self-shaming world. I've been talking to one friend and a therapist. What else can I do to process this anger for myself?