My ex and I are no longer married. He made the decision to get the divorce. It was hard for us to continue the recovery process because he could not truly own his choices to lie and cheat with multiple prostitutes. He knows what he did was wrong, abnormal and unhealthy. But he is in a state of indecisiveness because he put himself in a spot where his actions go against his character. This is where defensiveness and blame comes in. To avoid looking at himself, he projects onto me on my wrongs in the marriage that led him to seek sex elsewhere. We have 3 kids that we are trying to co-parent. He twists the narrative to say that the divorce was my doing and sees himself the victim in all of this and so he is still bitter towards me. I just want to co-parent peacefully with him.