Q&A How Will I Know I Have Forgiven Both My Husband and the AP?

I do not want to just get tired of working through the pain and shove it down convincing myself I have completely forgiven and then years down the road find out I am a bitter old woman. Is bitterness inevitable? At least to a degree while you walk through this long process of healing? D-Day was 17 months ago and within days one of my fears was I would end up bitter. I have seen at times I have tried to rush the process simply because I was scared that if it took too long I would be bitter (FOREVER). I realized that I was probably causing the thing I was trying to stop by rushing so I have stopped that. But still I am scared of being bitter, most people don't realize they are so bitter yet everyone around them does.