Q&A Is It Unreasonable to Expect My Mate to Be Honest about Their Needs?

Is it unreasonable for me, the unfaithful spouse, to expect my mate to be honest about what they need from me? My wife stays home and provides care for our 3 young children. I know the pain I’ve caused makes that job almost impossible and some days are days I need to choose her and my kids over my job. But is it unreasonable to expect her to tell me when that choice is necessary? Otherwise I don’t honestly know how to distinguish the really bad horrible days from the impossible days. If I have an idea that it might be one of those days and I ask her if she needs me to stay home and she responds “no”? Am I supposed to always know when “no” means “yes” and if I get it wrong ... does that make me an uncaring, unloving and unworthy partner for her to continue with given my past betrayal. I’m truly fearful if I don’t be careful I’m going to lose my job as I’ve been putting my wife and kids before my job a lot lately. I’m the sole financial provider and we don’t have family money to fall back on.