We’ve had marriage counseling but quit two months ago after my husband got angry about my telling I wasn’t happy about his efforts to find another job. He has done one interview in four months time and hasn’t applied for a single job. The marriage counsellor told me my husband has trouble showing empathy where I show empathy a lot. He says it is mainly hard on me but he sees some progress in him. When it comes to confronting my husband with his words versus his actions I’m the only one who does that and I’m tired of it. I’ve had individual counseling and I’m starting with a new therapist next week. I’m so sad and angry because I don’t get empathy. I had to discover the affair when they where in the midst of it and was first told it was only six weeks. Four (working with affair partner) weeks later I had to find out, the affair lasted about five months and didn’t finish when I discovered it but a week later? Don’t know if this is true, need to trust it is? Husband gets angry when we talk about it. We have three small children and I love my husband and our live but I need also to see actions from him to heal. He is afraid to look for another job because of financial insecurities. He loves his job. And he is afraid we won’t make it together and then he will have left the job he loves..... Somehow it doesn’t matter that much to him that he is loosing his family. The women is an employee of his and he sees/meets her at least once a week, emails her and calls her several times a week on bussiness. At work there are no changes or boundaries except I don’t want them to meet behind closed doors. I’ve never been welcome at his place of work so I have to trust (!?) he does what he says. I asked him to watch your blogs on a regular basis and he said he would but he doesn’t. I’m at the end of my rope, don’t want a divorce but cannot see any other way at the moment.