I am the wayward spouse. Discovery was about 3 months ago. When everything was first discovered, my wife and I had an opportunity to get away without our kids to work on things. We decided not to tell them. The kids at home are 13 and 15. But now I’m afraid that due to flooding and trying to personally work on things the kids are observing a lot more and they know something is up. I don’t know if it’s better to tell them or not.