My affair ended about 12 years ago. The full truth about my double life has only recently come out. My husband says that when I answer questions about the affair partner, I speak with a 'nice tone', as if I still care perhaps. In my heart of hearts I know I do not, I think the tone relates to the fact that he was a nice person and was kind to me at that time. To add to this confusion, about 5 years ago I had a strong desire to phone the affair partner and I did but I instantly regretted it and hung up right away. I was convicted, knew it was wrong and knew I did not want to do that. 3 years ago I ran into him at a restaurant and was excited and wanted to talk to him. I timed it so that I would run into him outside, again, as soon as I was there and started talking I was disgusted with myself and knew it was not what I really wanted to do, we talked for about 10 mins and I left. I never went back to that restaurant incase I saw him again. I haven't seen or heard from him since and have no desire to. Through my healing process and going through the EMS course I feel nothing toward him. My husband thinks I may still be emotionally attached...what do you think?