Q&A Is There Any Way to Convince My Mate That I'm Not Emotionally Connected to My Affair Partner?

My affair ended about 12 years ago. The full truth about my double life has only recently come out. My husband says that when I answer questions about the affair partner, I speak with a 'nice tone', as if I still care perhaps. In my heart of hearts I know I do not, I think the tone relates to the fact that he was a nice person and was kind to me at that time. To add to this confusion, about 5 years ago I had a strong desire to phone the affair partner and I did but I instantly regretted it and hung up right away. I was convicted, knew it was wrong and knew I did not want to do that. 3 years ago I ran into him at a restaurant and was excited and wanted to talk to him. I timed it so that I would run into him outside, again, as soon as I was there and started talking I was disgusted with myself and knew it was not what I really wanted to do, we talked for about 10 mins and I left. I never went back to that restaurant incase I saw him again. I haven't seen or heard from him since and have no desire to. Through my healing process and going through the EMS course I feel nothing toward him. My husband thinks I may still be emotionally attached...what do you think?