Hi Rick. I'm trying to understand what I should expect from my unfaithful spouse. It's been almost 4 months since dday of an 8 year affair. He says he has had no contact with the AP since I confronted him, he is very remorseful and says he is committed to working on helping me heal and working on our marriage. He has taken some steps to help regain my trust. He answers a lot of my questions but I still get some "I don't know" or "I don't remember" answers. We have been seeing a counselor and reading a lot of things on AR. It seems like both the counselor and AR indicate that he should take the lead on repairing the damage he's done. He should initiate conversations about what happened and about our marriage. To gain trust he should come forward with information without being asked. I've told him it would help a lot if he did these things but I still feel like I always have to take the lead on starting conversations because he seems to avoid it. He says he is just not good at opening up and talking about his feelings. Should I be concerned about this?

Rick's Suggested Resources:

"Worthy of Her Trust" by Stephen Arterburn, Jason B. Martinkus. Also available for Kindle.