What would you say to a husband who has not sought consistent individual counseling or made an effort toward marital counseling but wants to reconcile. We are a year from D-Day, did EMS Weekend, but that's all. He says he wants to restore and rebuild and has done some therapy here and there. But nothing consistent. In the scope of a year, he has done maybe 4 individual sessions. He doesn't want to talk about the affair because he says that it is a wound which we keep infecting by touching it and talking about it.