Rick, we haven't been able to receive the proper help we need. It's almost 2 years since D day and we're not healing but have instead deteriorated. It feels like our relationship is getting to the stage of being irreparable but we do still want to heal our relationship. We don't live in USA and we haven't been able to find a counselor who specializes in infidelity. Our counsellor doesn't truly acknowledge the emotional infidelity that my mate got involved in although he clearly crossed the lines of being "just friends" with his affair partner. She doesn't want to talk about the infidelity and said that it's not helpful. She has said that my mate's like this because he's looking for love as his needs are not met here and he can continue to be friends with the affair partner if he wants to. I often feel blamed as the cause of his emotional infidelity too. I feel very confused and even more hurt with the whole process. We've been thinking of changing therapist. Can you please suggest what kind of therapy would be particularly helpful for us to heal as a couple and individually as a result of emotional infidelity and that actually complements with 'Affair Recovery' as I'm aware that there's various therapy approaches out there? We can't afford to continue in this state as it is too costly. I often feel there's no hope for healing due to the lengthy time we've been stuck in this mud.