My husband and I are 8 months past initial discovery, with 3 D-Days. We took EMS Online, though he admits he checked out of it about 4 weeks in. We are now separated. I started individual counseling and Harboring Hope. He says he joined a men’s group. He says he’s trying, but his “trying” is at the expense of crossing my boundaries and being unsafe. He calls and texts when I specifically ask him not to. He tries to guilt me into feeling sorry for him because he’s now uncomfortable. Where is the humility and empathy? I have yet to see it!