Surviving Infidelity: When Hope Crumbles - Part 2 When Hope Crumbles: A 2 Part Series by Cindy Beall: Surviving Infidelity: When Hope Crumbles - Part 1 Surviving Infidelity: When Hope Crumbles - Part 2 This week, we’d like to share part two of our guest post series from our friend and fellow pioneer in caring for couples in crisis, Cindy Beall1. As you’ll remember, Cindy is a friend, writer, speaker and mentor of women who are on their own journey of healing from the effects of infidelity. Her first book Healing Your Marriage When Trust Is Broken, was released in 2011 and has been a wonderful source of encouragement and hope to many. We are privileged to have Cindy as the keynote speaker for our first annual Hope Rising One-Day Conference for betrayed spouse's coming up in October. When Hope Crumbles - Part 2 One would think that making the decision to honor my marriage vows when I could have walked away would have made things instantly better. Yes, a peace fell upon me as soon as I decided to trust God for clarity, but the pain and heartache took its own sweet time to diminish. On the days when I could barely lift my head from the pillow, God gave me strength for the journey. Finding truths to stand on is vital for our faith life - and never more so than when we have been let down by others, ourselves, and a lack of truth in our lives. You truly do feel lost at sea once lies wash over you and threaten to carry away the life you once had. Wisdom from godly people will help you stay afloat, but it will be God’s truth that carries you to solid ground, where you have a better perspective (not to mention a safer one).1 When the images would come flooding into my mind, I was able to turn to prayer or scripture for peace. When the pain bombarded me and suffocated me like a blanket in 100° weather, I knew where to turn for comfort. Had I never needed comfort, I would not have known the Comforter. Now I can’t promise all the storms will be removed from your life. I also can’t promise that you’ll have a comfortable, pain-free existence on this earth, even if you choose to do what seems like the selfless, admirable thing. I can’t even promise that you’ll get everything you want by pursuing restoration. What I can promise is that when you are weak, He’ll be strong. When you think you can’t take another step, He’ll carry you. When you are in despair, you can still find hope. We find these truths from a passage in the book of Isaiah: "Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint." Isaiah 40:30-31 There are many things I don’t know... I don’t understand algebra or physics. I don’t get how a heavy airplane can stay up in the sky and not fall to the ground. I wish I knew why innocent people have to suffer, why children have to die. If I did, I’d bottle up the formula to fix their problems and give it away. I don’t know lots of things. Here’s what I do know. According to the Bible, I serve a big God. He created the Universe in less than a week. He formed mountains and scooped out valleys with His hands. He is everywhere, all the time. He can change a heart with the snap of his fingers. He can bring sight to a blind man with some dirt and saliva. He can part a sea and allow his people to cross on dry land. He can make walls fall down with the blast of a trumpet. He can keep a man from being eaten by lions. He can bring forth a child through a virgin. He can turn a Pharisee into a martyr for Christ. He can transform a fisherman into a minister of the gospel. He brings peace that no one can explain. He is truly a remarkable God. My marriage is living proof. Even if you think your situation is beyond repair, please believe this truth: God is the God of the impossible. He is faithful and loving and kind and tender and good and miraculous and amazing. He is true to His word and will do what He says He is going to do. Nothing is too difficult for Him. Join us for Hope Rising One-Day Conference on October 6th and see Cindy live! I hope this two-part series from Cindy Beall has provided a ray of hope in the midst of what may feel insurmountable. It may seem hard to believe, but there are countless stories of restoration and incredible transformations. Infidelity is a pain like no other, and no one is saying it will be easy. In those caverns of despair, look to those who have uncovered an entirely new marriage from the ashes. There is no such thing as being too far gone. Where ever you are in your story, there is hope. Transformation is typically packaged much differently than we would like. It takes incredible courage to pursue what options may exist for you both after the discovery of infidelity or addiction. If you’re looking for real stories of healing and restoration, you can read or watch testimony after testimony of people who actually participated in our Programs and Courses. If you’re looking for a hope that dares to try and the tools that teach you how to work out your recovery, I’d like to invite you to consider our EMS Weekend. If you’re still stuck in the "What now?" phase of recovery, I hope you’ll give our free First Steps Bootcamp a try. We hope it will help you decide what your next step could look like. 1Beall, Cindy. Healing Your Marriage When Trust Is Broken: Finding Forgiveness and Restoration. Eugene, Oregon: Harvest House, 2011. eBook. Sections: NewsletterFounder's LaptopFree ResourcesHot Off the PressRL_Category: Find HopeRL_Media Type: Text
