My husband says he has completely broken off the AP relationship. I know he has not from reading his emails (he thinks I can't get to his emails) he see). He sees her weekly and is telling her to be patient. Is it possible that he is trying to let her down easily or am I being fooled again? Should I watch and wait or move on immediately? A marriage of 35 years is difficult to end. I love him dearly!

Rick,

I understand why a spouse should not read the partner's journal. The state of mind, and thoughts can change. But, facts don't change. If he has two outgoing calls to an AP AFTER he has started counseling and he says his behavior has changed, those are facts I need to know. I realize he can call from a different phone number, and if he wants to continue he will be able to do so without my knowledge. But, if I do find something, then he is not trustworthy, or safe. It's heartbreaking! Wouldn't this be verification? (Which he failed)

If I look at his phone, or want to verify his whereabouts, or want passwords, he says I am being "sneaky". AR considers secrets to be infidelity. If he isn't doing anything wrong, he shouldn't mind sharing these things with me. He gets mad and says I am snooping, being sneaky, etc. But, he's an incredibly good liar, so I need verification.

Please help. thanks

RIck -
My husband is still in denial over his emotional entanglement with his supervisor for 4 years. We're early in EMOS but he can't not see her because it's a small organization with just him and her and one other person full time and a few part-time people. Do you have some men that don't get it until week 12? Will all this work be for naught if he never admits to what he's doing is wrong? I'm fighting back feelings of hopelessness with lots of prayer but feel like I'm stuck.