Rick,

I am approaching the one year anniversary of D-Day and yet some days it is still hard for me to believe that my husband actually had an affair.  I know he did--he has admitted it and I recovered numerous e-mail messages between him and his AP, containing graphic detail from the last week of the affair.  However, even now, there are times when I cannot believe that the same man I married, who now professes to love me and our three young daughters, is the man who lied and cheated and manipulated me into feeling guilty if I ever acted like I suspected he might be unfaithful.  How do you reconcile that this person to whom you were married for (at the time) 15 years and who you trusted with your very life and the lives of your children, was capable of such unfathomable treachery?  I did not think this was in his character.  I never would have believed it happened if the evidence had not been so overwhelming.  How do you truly accept that this person did these horrible things, but he/she is not a "horrible person" and move forward to true forgiveness?