I conquered a trigger last week, and I couldn’t wait to get home from my vacation and share it with you!

One of the assignments in EMS Online is to list your triggers. When I took EMS Online about 3 1/2 years ago, I remember thinking, “How many can I list? How much time do I get? We could be here all night!”

Somewhere near the bottom of my list, but still significant enough for me to note, was a song. It was a song my husband had confessed he and the affair partner really liked and had enjoyed listening to together.

Ever since I learned about their connection to this song, I’ve never been able to listen to it. The minute it comes on the radio, I can’t turn it off fast enough.

Well, picture this: I was on a beautiful cruise ship in the middle of the Caribbean, en-route to Aruba. I had just finished a decadent dinner with my husband and twin daughters, celebrating their 21st birthdays. As we walked out of the dining room, they were having a dance party in the middle of the ship!

We were having so much fun, dancing to the first few songs, and then it happened. That song, their song came on. I felt panicked. I couldn’t turn it off. The best I could do was make up a reason I had to leave. But instead, I thought, “It’s time.

For the first time, I feel like it’s been enough time.

I’m not only going to listen to this entire damn song. I’m going to dance and apparently even sing with my husband and my twins.”

I knew it was time to reclaim the associations I had to this song and any power it once had over me.

I haven’t heard that song since, and I don’t know when I will hear it again. But when I do, my hope is that instead of thinking about the affair partner, I will think about dancing with my husband and twin daughters in our cocktail attire in the middle of the Caribbean.

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