Samuel, we have seen so many of your videos, and taken the 13 week course. They have helped us more than any therapy we have received!

After listening to your video, I was wondering if your position is that every single instance of infidelity can be dealt with successfully. You mentioned sociopath, narcissist, addict, and was wondering if and when a dissolution of the marriage might be warranted. I mean, granted that you and I are willing to take honest and fundamental steps in healing our marriages, but I'm certain that this is not the case each and every time. What are the criteria that will determine if a marriage can be healed? On another note, each person has a different ability to deal with trauma, and maybe there are instances that emotionally, someone's ability to handle this trauma is beyond their scope, and will haunt them for the rest of their lives. Is this a way to live?

Are there marriages where a dissolution is the best course, either for one or both spouses?

I do have friends that are dealing with these issues, and have recommended your program, but some have separated and others live in misery

I don't know if this was Traumatic, but it I think it certainly has made my journey, which began 288 days ago, more difficult and delayed the beginning of healing. My unfaithful wife was told by two general therapist and a close relative, after sharing our story, that it isn't surprising that she would have an affair. I think she justifies the affair in her mind because she cannot cope with the amount of trauma her actions have caused. I am still trying to overcome these "acts of kindness" that validate my wife's affair. We have recently started the AR Boot Camp and I have realized personally that I need expert help and I am not getting that in current therapy avenues. I have connected with Dr. Hainey and I think I have my wife finally convinced of the value for expert care. Thank you for putting all of this information together in one place. One topic I would recommend is the damage to recovery general therapist and armchair therapist can do and perhaps a general overview of what purpose those types of confidants should serve in the affair recovery process.