Samuel - My wife and I are a few years down the road in recovery. I'm doing fairly well at healing from the affair she had that ended in 2016 with someone she used to work with back in the 1970s. But it wasn't until over a year after our reconciliation that she finally told me the entire truth. Although she had always denied that anything happened between them back when they were co-workers over 35 years ago, she finally confessed that they actually were sleeping together back then. That was only a couple of years into our marriage and now I can't look at anything after that point the same way. It's much harder to process, understand and get past that early affair and the 40 years of lies and deception than it is for the more recent affair which started during a low point in our marriage. It's hard to find material on healing from infidelity you discover many years after it happened. It seems almost impossible to fully restore the love and trust you once had for your spouse. Progress can easily give way to depression, anger and uncertainty at any time. Could you do a video sometime addressing dealing with old affairs that come to light years later? Thanks.

I thought this topic was going to be about the betrayed spouse whose still waiting for the unfaithful to show compassion after the infidelity has totally destroyed them. When does that happen?